How hypnotherapy works.

Scientists commonly explain just how hypnotherapy works.

Hypnotherapists have known for generations the things which science is now beginning to explain. Chabris & Simons, Gladwell and Kahneman, Norman Doidges and more have all brought scientific methodology to bear on the problem of the unconscious. Their findings have confirmed what any hypnotherapist could have told them many years ago.

The human mind is constantly searching for heuristics (rules of thumb) by which intuition can guide us safely through life. It’s no use, for example, wondering if the lion is dangerous.

 

The brain adopts a simple heuristic which states that anything big which leaps out at us will present a danger. We run without thinking. If something hurts or upsets us, we quickly learn to avoid it in the future. If something is true once, it’s very likely to be true again. Or so we think.

These rules of thumb are generally very helpful and so we pass through life without being aware of quite how many we have picked up. They become automatic and unquestioned. We are unaware of them in most cases. Sometimes, however, they are quite wrong in their assumptions and it is these which cause us problems.

Hypnotherapy, in the hands of the skilled and ethical hypnotherapist, can help us to access the programs which run behind the scenes in our brains. Once they are identified they can be rewritten. All the bugs can be removed. You could learn to see things in different ways. You could learn to question the assumptions you make. You could learn to re-write all those programs which run unnoticed, within the unconscious portion of your mind.

To find out how, to discus how hypnotherapy can be of help to you, contact me at  604 202 7938.

Regain your confidence with walking.

Regain your confidence with walking. Hypnotherapy could help you.

Losing confidence is a common consequence of a nasty fall. Hypnotherapy could help you to recover your poise.

Toddlers need to make an effort to walk. As children and adults it should be easy. Sometimes, however, it becomes more of an effort than it ought to be and sometimes our own brains and their fears get in the way.

I seem to be taking on a new genre of client recently. I’m now using hypnotherapy in Vancouver to help people recover their confidence with walking after a fall in the home.

It’s a scary thing to fall after a lifetime of carefree and effortless walking. It can feel as if things will never be the same again. Independence is a treasured commodity at all times but never more so than when it seems as if it might be coming to an end.
The worse the fall, of course, the greater the danger that our confidence in our ability to walk from A to B will be severely impaired.
It needn’t be this way, however, you can learn to undo the damage and to recover your confidence. Hypnotherapy in Vancouver could help you to regain your confidence, your independence and your life.

But isn’t fear a good thing after a fall? Shouldn’t we be afraid so that we’re more careful?

At some stage we may have to recognise that our days of running through fields and dancing without a care have come to an end. At some stage we may have to start taking that little bit more care.

We may, as age creeps upon us, need to learn to be a bit more cautious in what we do with our bodies. Fear, however, may well be a step too far and it can even become counter-productive.

Walking becomes a subconscious act once we learn it in our infancy. When you first learned to walk you had to consciously learn how to co-ordinate a centre of gravity with dozens of muscle, tendons and joints. Once earned, however, you simply willed yourself to walk to a certain point and could do it without a thought.

After a fall, however, many people go back to walking consciously, taking so much care over their movements that they interfere with their body’s learned ability to co-ordinate its movements without thought. We thus make future falls more, not less, likely.

Furthermore, we tend to shy away from things we fear. We may choose to walk less or to use artificial aids, both of which can weaken our memories of walking freely and with confidence. We can become dependent upon a frame or sticks and so forget that we can relearn to walk without them.

Hypnotherapy could help you to regain that confidence.

I use hypnotherapy in Vancouver to help people reconnect with their bodies and with their body’s relationship to the ground they walk upon.

I help people to get back their confidence, to remember the days before the fall, and to begin walking freely. Of course, we may need to maintain an increased respect for our body’s frailty. You may have to resign yourself to identifying a little more with the tortoise than the hare but you can learn to let go of the fear. You can regain enough confidence to begin walking more freely than you once thought possible.

Hypnotherapy could also help you with co-morbid problems such as depression, generalized anxiety or a wider sense of hopelessness. If your fall has knocked the wind out of your sails then hypnotherapy could help to put a spring back into your step.

If you’d like to hear more of how hypnotherapy could help you then please do give me a call. I’d be glad to listen and to explain how I could help you. You could call at   604 202 7938.

Emotional abuse is the poor relation. Hypnotherapy could help to put it right.

Emotional abuse is the poor relation. Hypnotherapy could help to put it right

Children begin as completely emotionally unrestrained

A great deal of literature has been written on sexual and physical abuse. Teachers, doctors and social workers are all trained in how to spot signs of these things and to report them to the proper authorities.
Emotional abuse and neglect, however, is less often noticed. It is, in fact, hardly even appreciated as being abuse. People are more likely to shrug it off with a ‘that’s how things were back then’ or something similar. They simply tell themselves that they ‘should be over it by now’ in a way which would seem positively callous if they were talking of somebody else who had been abused sexually.
Let’s begin with a mantra: ‘abuse is abuse is abuse.’ Say it again! If you were a victim of emotional abuse then you went through something which no child should have had to endure.
I use hypnotherapy in Vancouver every week, helping people to overcome the consequences of emotional abuse. You could learn to let go of the past too.

Children are, by default, emotionally transparent. They begin with no inhibitions whatsoever with regard to letting their parents know of their emotional state.
I was in a supermarket earlier today and two children in the next aisle were letting the whole world know, with every ounce of strength in their lungs, how unhappy they were.

On Christmas day morning it’ll be a different story. They’ll be leaping about in excitement at the prospect of presents.
Young children, when permitted, are emotionally unrestrained. They swing from peak to trough in an instant.

An important aspect of growing up is learning how to regulate emotions, learning how and when it is appropriate to exhibit them and learning how to remedy the negative emotions of anger, upset and envy etc. We learn this from parents, watching them carefully and being gently corrected when they judge that we ought, by now, to know a little better.

What happens if this process is disturbed by emotionally violent or un-nurturing parents?

But what if parents refuse to allow children to give vent to their emotions? What if every tear is greeted with indifference or protests of “don’t be silly,” “I haven’t time for this” or “you’re a big girl now, stop crying”?

What if a child’s excitement at a new toy or cartoon is discouraged through admonitions to “calm down” or “stop making so much noise”?

All parents find themselves doing this from time to time, life being so very busy and pressured, but what if it is a constant approach to child-rearing?

Sue Gerhardt in her ‘Why Love Matters’ explains the ‘what ifs’ of such scenarios. The development of the infant brain is interrupted. Regions of the brain remain under-developed and the child’s emotional.

Children learn to hide emotions away.

Children who find their emotions dismissed in such a manner soon learn to hide them away, to suppress and disown them. The penalty for such emotional neglect can be one of becoming estranged from all emotion. The child never merely sweeps them under the carpet.

People are, of course, emotional beings and those who lose touch with this aspect of what it is to be human will often encounter all kinds of problems with emotional health, relationships, anxiety and anger.

They will often experience anxiety and anger in their full “glory” but happiness will appear muted and stunted. These habits and effects don’t just end with childhood, of course, they last until anxiety, depression and anger eventually force their way to the surface.

It doesn’t have to be this way, however. The brain is infinitely malleable and can learn to make good the damage done in early childhood. New ways of dealing with emotions can be learned. The past can be allowed to fade away, into the past, and people can learn to open up to joy, to hurt, to love in new and exciting ways.

How can hypnotherapy help?

A mindful approach to hypnotherapy can help victims of emotional neglect reintegrate their emotions.
It can be relatively long and difficult work but it is entirely possible to bring back into consciousness, and thus under control, those emotions which have been hidden away for so long that they’re all but forgotten.
It is possible to undo the damage to self-esteem done by poor parenting. It’s entirely feasible and if you live in or near Vancouver then please consider giving me a call at 604 202 7938.

If you suffered emotional abuse as a child and are still suffering from anxiety, anger, depression and poor self-esteem then hypnotherapy could help you. If you’re fed up of wrecking relationships or are tired of using alcohol and/or drugs to dull the pain then hypnotherapy could help to provide a better solution. You can recover I’d be glad to help you.

Stop telling yourself that ‘other people had it worse’ or that you ‘should be over it by now’. It hasn’t helped you, has it? Bullying yourself and belittling your experiences only makes things worse. Get in touch. Let’s deal with it once and for all.

Get in touch and we’ll discuss how hypnotherapy could help you

If you think this describes you then please do consider getting in touch. You can learn to get back in touch with your emotions. It will improve every aspect of your life. Call me at  604 202 7938,

Celebrity and Hypnotherapy.

It has become commonplace for hypnotherapists to state that Lilly Allen used hypnotherapy for weight loss. Hypnotherapy, in the hands of a skilled hypnotherapist, can help identify the causes of weight gain and support the client through the process of adopting a healthier attitude towards food, exercise and weight. I’ve used hypnotherapy in Vancouver and other locations for this purpose. If you’d like to lose weight then you could achieve it too. Anything Lily Allen can do, you can do too.

Lily Allen’s use of hypnosis, however, isn’t as much of a marketing success story as many hypnotherapists imagine. People often expect cash-rich celebrities to adopt esoteric and bizarre “solutions” to their issues. How many actors and celebrities do you know who have turned to minor religious cults, for example?

Hypnotherapy isn’t just for celebrities. It can help you to achieve your goals too.

Well, for what it’s worth, below is a list of famous people who have turned to hypnosis and hypnotherapy for help. The names may surprise you but they pay testament to the fact that hypnotherapy can be of use to us all. It isn’t strange or weird or only for the kooky among us.
Did you know, for example, that Winston Churchill used hypnosis? He used post-hypnotic suggestion to defeat feelings of tiredness during WW2. Hypnosis allowed him to remain awake throughout the night, in times of great stress, focuactors use hypnotherapy to improve their performance. You could benefit too!sing on his work rather than on his exhaustion.
Kevin McBride, a famous Irish heavyweight boxer, used hypnosis to focus his mind before a fight.
Tiger Woods used hypnosis to improve his golf. If only he’d also turned to hypnotherapy  for other issues; perhaps his golf wouldn’t have suffered so much of late. Another famous golfer, Jack Nicklaus, has also used hypnosis to focus his mind before a big competition.

Boxers, singers, Prime Ministers and actors used hypnotherapy in order to improve their performance. You could benefit too.

In 1956 the Russian Olympic team took eleven hypnotherapists with them. We all know how formidable the Russians were as a sporting nation.
Phil Jackson, Head Coach of the Chicago Bulls, used hypnosis with his team. They won six NBA championships.
Other famous users of hypnosis / hypnotherapy include Jackie Kennedy Onassis, who used hypnosis to relieve her grief over the death of JFK.
Kevin Costner used a hypnotherapist, during the making of “Waterworld” to help him with sea-sickness. Matt Damnon, Charlize Theron, Aston Kutcher, Mark Knopfler, Drew Barrimore and Ellen Degeneres have all used hypnotherapy in order to give up smoking.
Love them or hate them, these people are all successful in their fields and they all know how to make, save and spend their money wisely. If it’s good enough for you, it seems, it’s good enough for them!
Nerves, performance, depression, anxiety, addictions, OCD and so much more: hypnotherapy could help you to become a more effective, happier, calmer you. Wouldn’t that be great?

Get in touch to find out how hypnotherapy could help you. Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy is an ideal modality for all manner of psychological issues. You needn’t be millionaires or celebrities to benefit. Anybody can enjoy the benefits of hypnotherapy. If you find yourself unable to deal with a problem alone, contact me at 604 202 7938

Hypnotherapy for children.

Their imaginations can invent anything.

Imagination has driven the world forward since the dawn of human history. We’ve used it to imagine the solution to a problem and then to put that solution into practice. We’ve used it to create the most soaringly beautiful works of art, the most glorious literature and we’ve used it to create monsters. Imagination can be the source of wondrous beauty and of blood-curdling terror.

Hypnotherapy uses it too.

Children are born with an endless imagination. School and reality can, all too often, drive it out of them. Lucky, indeed, is the child is the child who grows to adulthood with his or her full capacity for imagination intact.

However, sometimes an imagination can be a double edged sword. I have used hypnotherapy in Toronto, Vancouver and other locations  to help children free themselves from problems which their own imaginations have created.

For example…

I saw a new client this evening, a ten year old boy who finds it hard to both get to sleep and stay asleep.
It turns out that he saw some lights shining through the rain on his bedroom window and, in an instant, he created a terrifying backstory to the image which his brain created for him.
Imagination caused him to invent all kinds of nastiest which left him so terrified that he refused to go to bed on his own from that point on.
I can remember, as a child, watching Jaws on TV. My imagination was so strong that I was, from that point, scared to go to the toilet for a few days. Water, all water, was scary!

Their imaginations make them ideal subjects for hypnotherapy

Children have fantastic imaginations. This is why they’re so awesome at hypnotherapy. Their imaginations, however, can get them into trouble and this is when they come to see me.

Once we establish how their imaginations have become a bit naughty and have invented a problem, they can begin to take control and to imagine the solution…

Their imaginations can uninvent almost anything too.

In this case the problem is also the solution. When children can imagine themselves into a problem they can also imagine themselves out of it. Hypnotherapy can guide them through this process.

I’ve only seen my new client once. Already he’s feeling better about bedtime. Soon he’ll simply forget he was ever afraid of anything.

If your child has dreamed up all sorts of nastiest then I’ll be glad to help him or her imagine themselves free of it. Happy children grow into happy adults. Your child deserves the chance to leave his or her fear behind them.

What else could hypnotherapy help a child with?

Other little boys and girls have used their imaginations to resolve enuresis, or bed-wetting. They’ve used their imaginations to rid themselves of the fear of ghosts, to lose their fear of SATs, to get rid of recurrent nightmares, to lose their fear of swallowing or new and unknown foods and much more besides. Give me a call to find out if I could help your child too.

Hypnotherapy has helped plenty of children. Your child can find peace too.

If your child has unwittingly used his imagination to create terror then rest assured that he has a very strong unconscious mind which could be used to reverse the process. You needn’t suffer your child to go to bed scared every night.

You needn’t have him or her in bed with you, disrupting your own evenings and sleep. Hypnotherapy could help your child, just as it has already helped dozens of children in Toronto, Vancouver and from other locations.

Call Lazzaro at 604 202 7938

How we see things.

How we see things.

How good is your brain at seeing what’s really going on? Watch the video and find out!

Our brains are very good at seeing what they believe they should see but we’re not so great at seeing what’s actually there.

If you watch the video you’ll notice that you can’t help slipping back into ‘seeing’ whole people where there are only halves. You know that this is simply a clever example of default human perceptual mechanisms but you won’t be able to help it. It’s how our brains work.

It’s simply unrealistic for our brains to consciously consider every piece of information received every minute of the day. Our brains thus seek patterns and when we see something which represents a part of a familiar pattern, our brains merely join the dots and fill the gaps. This is how this particular illusion works.

But why do we see faces in clouds?

 

The brain can’t bear chaos. It’s like a Sergeant with OCD. It demands that things take an orderly shape. So when we see an example of randomness our brains scramble to make sense of it. it’s a process called ‘pareidolia’ and is one of the most interesting concepts in psychology, in my opinion.

It could save your life one day. How else would you spot that leopard in the grass? Your brain seeks to identify patterns even when they’re not there. That’s why arachnophobes jump out of their skins when they see a black smudge on a wall out of the corner of an eye.

Pareidolia is a fantastic thing but it hasn’t always worked in my favour. I once attempted to demonstrate the effects of pareidolia in a presentation, utilizing all manner of phallic innuendo: visual, verbal and so on. I carefully explained the process through which they turned my innocent use of a banana and squirty cream into a phallic object and a sexual ‘event’ and still a handful of them voted me down. Bah! More fool them! They prove my next point.

Believe what you want to believe! See what you want to see!

 

 

The tube is going both ways!

Oh no it’s not, it’s only going in one direction. Say what you like, only one direction of travel is actually taking place.

However, some people spend their entire lives telling themselves that their perception is unalterably true. Those people who come to see me for hypnotherapy in Vancouver spend their lives like this.

They see the world in their unique way and it either works for them or they adapt their lives in order to live around the distortion.

An agoraphobe may, therefore, build a life lived entirely indoors, safe from the outside world. The outside world is scary and impossibly dangerous, after all. For as long as that way of living remains tenable, the illusion stays unchallenged and, indeed, strengthens over time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whatever you see, it’s certainly not reality. There’s no such thing

We all have individual lives, pasts and personalities. We’ve all learned to see the world in a certain way. Vision doesn’t take place in the eyes but in the brain. The brain has to interpret the visual signals sent by the eyes and these interpretations are open to error. Some people see the world as beautiful. Some people see it as dark, menacing and brutal.

Whatever we believe, confirmation bias works to help us maintain our belief. We will screen out conflicting information and focus upon that which confirms our beliefs as true. Most of this will be done unconsciously. We never even notice that there are different ways of seeing things.

Sometimes, however, we do notice that something is wrong but we just can’t work out what it is. Look at the following picture:

Your mind doesn’t see everything as it truly is. We see what we look for

As you look at this picture your brain keeps trying to make sense of it. You may, at times, think you’ve resolved it, only to find that certainty disappears. Hang on a minute…

There’s no answer to this drawing. We want it to be a coherent shape but it can never be. Why should it have to be? You see what appears to be a triad of cylinders and demand that they conform to your expectations. Why should they? You’re the problem, not the drawing.

My clients will frequently come to me when they tire of trying to square this circle. Their perception of the world no longer works, the way they see themselves becomes too painful. Their way of life becomes too hard and they want to change.

Cats see in black and white. Bats have little sight and see by ultrasound. Bees see using ultraviolet light. I am a touch short sighted. I don’t wear glasses unless I’m driving because I quite like my world a little bit fuzzy. None of us see the world as it really is. When our distorted view of things becomes too costly, we could all use a little help in order to change.

The very act of picking up that ‘phone is an instance of change. Why pick it up if there’s no hope, if you really are as hopeless as you’ve always thought?

No, the act of picking up a ‘phone or sending me an email is an admission that you have things all wrong – that there is a different way of seeing things. You’re now seeking help in order to find it.

Hypnotherapy is great at helping us to change our view of things. Hypnotherapy helps people to see that they could think, feel and behave differently. Hypnotherapy helps to access those parts of the mind which we have spent a lifetime in programming to see things in a distorted fashion. You can change how you see yourself. You can change how you think, feel and behave. Hypnotherapy can help you.

This video of people seeing colour for the first time is really quite moving. Many of my clients feel similarly shocked when they manage to change how they see their own selves. When they manage this there’s nothing else for it. Their behaviours, feelings and thought patterns change too. Others have done it. Ho about it? You could, too! Give me a call at 604 2020 7938 could do with seeing things differently. Best wishes.

Besides Hypnotherapy I Also Provide The Following Sessions

To Book An Appointment with Lazzaro Call: 604 202 7938

Simon Cowell-Hypnosis

Simon Cowell Hires Hypnotherapist

Our minds going blank at awkward times is more common than you might think. So many people that have to present themselves to others whether it be an interview, a social gathering or large presentation can be effected by this. Even Simon Cowell had to hire a hypnotherapist to get his star singer back on track with her vocals which worked perfectly.

Enjoy this link to see the results of the hypnotherapists work with X Factor finalist Tamera Foster.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2516047/Simon-Cowell-hires-hypnotist-help-X-Factors-Tamera-Foster-right-frame-mind-forgot-lines-time.html

Children Taught How To Think

Children taught how to think, not what to think.

 

When we are all grown up and face ‘adult’ issues, we do wonder how did it all start and if there’s anything that could have been done sooner.

With out a doubt, a child will be curious about their surroundings – discover and learn – but possibly become a little stressed along the way. Bullying, too harsh criticism, losing someone dear to them (e.g death, moving away) or sudden changes in an otherwise well-structured routines of daily life can have affects like;

*Nail biting.
*Stammering.
*Bed-wetting.
*Irritability, forgetfulness.
*Become more accident prone.
*Start to have negative association with school or authority figures.

A lot of times, we realise that some of our negative behavior stems directly from our childhood. If these issues are not dealt with, they could lead to depression, inability to make genuine connections to others or deceptive mind that is hard to control.

Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool that can be utilized to help anyone with any number of problems. Young minds are highly responsive and the imagination of a child is vast, bright and colorful. Or, at times, these minds obtain a darker hue and that’s where we step in. A session to a child can easily be explained as a time for relaxation, exploration of their creativity and interests whilst fishing out troubling and destructive thoughts.

Different techniques will be implemented during the session to make it more appealing as well as more understandable to your loved little one.

A hopeful, playful and aware child’s mind becomes a robust and stunning adult’s mind. Help your child overcome their challenges to launch them into the path of positive change.

Now You See Me

Now You See Me – Now I Understand Me

”Can you read my mind?” – No.

”Are you a magician?” – No.

”Can you fix me? – No, because you do not need fixing but I can certainly help you!

Whenever I see an increase in these types of questions from my potential clients, I know, something relatively related to my field as hypnotherapist has been incorporated in the latest film or TV series.  This time the culprit is  ”Now You See Me”  a film from 2013 and the sequel ”Now You See Me 2′’ will be released on 4th of July in the United Kingdom.

The Plot in short ”Now You See Me” 2013: 

4 magicians, 4 individual invitation cards, 1 mysterious assigned meeting point.  Skip 1 year and you have Four Horsemen promising to entertain and fool your brain.  1 bank robbery, many angered people, 1 more robbery and 1 faked death. FBI and Interpol get involved.  Cat and mouse chase scenario all through the film. 

But only one of the magicians interests me  – Merritt McKinney played by Woody Harrelson – the mentalist.

What is mentalism? – It is a performing art.  Those who practice it want to be seen as highly intuitive individuals.  Usually mentalists say that they are entertainers and shouldn’t be seen as clairvoyant or a mind readers.  They are people who are very good at observing others – body language, facial expressions and breathing patterns. This field may also include the power of suggestion, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) as well as hypnosis being the main attraction.  It’s purely for entertainment. 

As a hypnotherapist I use my skills to help people.  Hypnotherapy for weight loss or hypnotherapy for anxiety are my two main fields.  In hypnotherapy sessions you are put in a state of total relaxation, you are not asleep and you cannot be told to do something against your own will.  I am there to help you fight your cause – weight loss or overcoming a form of anxiety.

The common ground between hypnotherapists and mentalists?  We do not pretend to be part of a eccentric magician cult.  It is a learned skill.

The difference between the two most likely is quite clear to you by now – one is an entertainment performance and the other is a complimentary therapy.  One helps you to relax and laugh the other helps you to relax and allows you to make changes you’ve always wanted.

Life is all about balance.  Be entertained, be happy, be curious and when it’s most needed be helped.

Improve Your Exam Performance

It is that time of year when many young people are revising and preparing for exams. It is hard not to feel stressed by exams particularly when the outcome can have a significant effect on your future.

 

So what can you do to improve your revision and your performance in the exams? There are two lifestyle factors that can have a substantial impact on your performance: your sleep and your nutrition.

Sleep for Better Exam Performance

Research into the role of sleep has shown that poor or inadequate sleep causes drowsiness that leads to reduced performance and memory impairment.  Insight and higher-level learning is also aided by sleep.

The amount of sleep we need varies with age. Adults need about 7.5 hours whereas teenagers need about 8.5 hours of sleep per night. Unfortunately, during the teenage years the brain is going through a number of neurological changes that mean that young adults tend to want to go to sleep later and get up later than when they were younger. School timetables don’t fit in with that pattern but it may be possible during the revision time leading up to exams.  You can catch up a bit at weekends but it is not as effective as regular good quality sleep

Some top sleep tips:

  • Treat your sleep seriously. While you are revising, get into a regular routine of going to bed before midnight and sleeping up to 8 hours if your commitments will allow.
  • Leave electronic equipment outside the bedroom to avoid stimulation. So, no mobile, no TV, and no computers in the bedroom.
  • Dim down light levels as the evening progresses and make sure your bedroom is completely dark. This facilitates the brain to produce melatonin and the neurotransmitters that aid good sleep.
  • Keep your bedroom cool, quiet and well-ventilated.
  • To induce sleep, listen to relaxing music, read a calming book or watch an amusing TV program. Do not watch the TV news or read a page-turner or do anything that will over-stimulate you.
  • Avoid or reduce caffeine in the afternoon and evening that includes coffee and energy drinks.
  • Reduce or avoid alcohol in the evenings. It negatively effects the quality of sleep.
  • Exercise in the morning or afternoon. Only do light stretching exercises in the evening.

Nutrition for Better Exam Performance

Our food provides the building blocks for our brains and our bodies. Good nutrition supports your mood and your brain function. Poor nutrition results in mood swings, stress on our internal organs and erratic brain function.

  • Stay hydrated. Drink plenty of water and de-caffeinated drinks. Avoid sugary, caffeinated drinks because they increase the level of the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, in the blood.
  • Reduce added sugar in your diet. Sugars in processed foods go under many names including: agave, dextrose, fructose, glucose, maltose, sorbitol, sucrose, and corn syrup. Eat fresh fruit and vegetables.
  • Substitute unrefined complex carbohydrates for simple carbohydrates. Eat wholemeal bread, brown rice, wholemeal pasta, grains, beans and pulses.
  • Foods that are good for brain function and mood include: salmon, mackerel, herring, flax and pumpkin seeds, meat and eggs.
  • Foods that are good for sleep include: dark cherries, almonds, kale, bananas, honey, flaxseeds and grapes.

 

 

If you need any help to relax and improve your revision and exam performance contact me so we can chat about how I can help you.

Hypnotherapy-Eating Disorder

How does hypnotherapy for eating disorders work?

Explanations for hypnotherapy for eating disorders can typically be found in online search, looking for topics such as gastric band hypnosis or reasons to use weight loss hypnotherapy. You can also search for hypnotherapy for treating bulimia, anorexia or for treating binge eating disorders.

An easy way to explain what the treatment is would be to say it is a way for a trained practitioner of hypnotherapy to use hypnotic or subliminal suggestion to help patients overcome addiction or fear without the use of conventional medicine.

How does hypnotherapy for eating disorders work?

That’s a question asked time and time again, and with good reason. With hypnotherapy often viewed as something to have fun with by television personalities, the public mistake this as a trick, rather than an accepted form of complimentary therapy.

However, whilst hypnotherapy isn’t endorsed by the NHS, you can find narrative on their website and suggestions of when this form of therapy can be useful. This is openly discussed under losing weight and quitting smoking and refers to the 2009 Cochrane report on Psychological Interventions for Overweight or Obesity.

Hypnotherapy for eating disorders works by promoting an overall change in mindset that includes a motivation for regular physical exercise. It motivates you to feel good about eating less, replaces the old cycle of thinking and behaviour, with a new confident “can do” attitude and fundamentally changes your mindset towards food.

What are eating disorders?

Whilst we all need food to survive, grow and maintain our health. It is often our lack of understanding or simply a development of unusual eating habits that affect our relationships with food.

Some of us develop emotional relationships with food, generically referred to as “disordered eating” sometimes referred to as comfort eating or binge eating as well as clinical terms such as anorexia and bulimia.

These are often tied to other emotional and mental health issues like depression, anxiety and low self-esteem.

Eating disorders are a range of mental health conditions that see sufferers build unusual habits with food. As well as the psychological issues, you have the physical affects which are not only extreme weight loss or weight gain, but also the effects that extreme losses and gains in weight have on our internal organs like our hearts and liver. Quite often these seemingly simple “unhealthy choices” can have devastating effects on the body.

How are eating disorders caused?

It’s very difficult to pigeon hole an individual or a group of people and say that any one trigger starts a food based relationship. But there is always a trigger, typically an emotional one.

However, the hypnotherapy directory lists a number of causes:

  • Having a family history of eating disorders or depression.
  • Having someone criticise your eating habits or your weight.
  • Feeling pressure to stay slim for work or a hobby.
  • Having certain characteristics, such as an obsessive personality or a tendency to be anxious.
  • Experiencing upsetting events, such as a death or abuse.
  • Relationship difficulties with friends or family members.
  • Being under a lot of stress, for example at school or university.

Can hypnotherapy cure bulimia or anorexia or binge eating disorder?

Hypnotherapists shouldn’t claim to cure eating disorders, such as bulimia anorexia or binge eating disorder because hypnotherapy has different results within different recipients of the treatment. So as part of a multi-pronged treatment which should include counselling (and often hypnotherapists are cross trained) we often see extremely good results.

Please be aware, it is sometimes noted that further treatments are required several months or years down the line, again depending on the person receiving the treatment.

When a clinical eating disorder has been diagnosed, treatment can begin. For those reading this article, you will often see the signs of anorexia or bulimia in a family member or a friend long before they will accept that they have a problem. It is up to you to encourage them to talk about their eating and seek professional help, their failure to understand their issues will make it difficult for them to seek help independently.

The difficult thing with helping a patient suffering from an eating disorder is that treatment can often swing backwards as well as go forwards as the patient unwinds back towards dealing with the trigger event. But early treatment gives someone the best opportunity to recover.

As mentioned earlier, a multi-pronged approach is often best used when treating eating disorders and we list some services below:

  • Cognitive behavioural therapy– A form of psychological therapy that aims to change the way you think and behave.
  • Interpersonal therapy– A talk therapy that focuses on relationship-based concerns.
  • Family therapy– Eating disorders affect more than just the sufferer. Family therapy may be advised to help all members deal with the condition.
  • Medication– Some sufferers will be prescribed antidepressants to help regulate mood.

Hypnotherapy practice for eating disorders

A hypnotherapist must understand the root causes of the issues behind the eating disorder and often uses regression techniques to discover these. The therapist will use relaxation techniques to access your subconscious to reveal the trigger event, comment or situation that may have contributed to the development of the disorder.

The goal of this is to use the power of suggestion to change thought processes and then habits around the eating disorder to facilitate a change in daily routine and the food relationship.

By using positive suggestion whilst you are “under” hypnosis, a trained practitioner can change the way you feel about yourself (self-esteem) as learning to feel good about and appreciate yourself is a massive part of recovery. Couple that with a new understanding of food and changing that relationship, hypnotherapy for eating disorders provides the mental support a person needs to fight back and avoid relapsing.

Do you want to lose weight?

Thousands of people are feeling just like you do right now. Christmas has been and gone, the festivities have brought a few extra pounds and the drinking sessions seem to have continued from there.

But deep down, you know you’re not really happy with whats going on and you want to change.

Maybe diets haven’t worked for you so far, but you’re willing to try something that will give you the positive edge you need to control the cravings you have around food.

If hypnotherapy is something that you are prepared to try, why don’t you download my free e-book on why dieting alone won’t provide the results you’ve been seeking.

Understand why Diets alone don’t maintain Weight Loss Success

Download our guide on why diets alone fail to maintain success!

Hypnotherapy supports your diet by:

  • Planting subconscious suggestion
  • Removing the need to cheat
  • Learn why dieting doesn’t change your    habits

Hypnosis has proven results in aiding weight loss.

Many people have to understand that a bad or unhealthy diet usually comes from years of habitual training of your food consumption.

Working late, lack of access to healthy, suitable alternatives, lifestyle and a lack of understanding of what’s good and what isn’t contribute.

Lazzaro’s guide to why diets fail will help you understand these issues.

Gastric Band Hypnosis

What is gastric band hypnosis

This doesn’t happen for real, only in your subconscious mind. Your mind then believes you have a gastric band fitted where you visualise your new stomach as the size of a golf ball.

This means that you eat slower and far less as you mentally feel much fuller much quicker. Your appetite is drastically reduced and weight loss is far more natural because of the gastric band hypnosis sessions.

It’s a safe and a highly effective method of weight loss and shown throughout clinical trials worldwide and is commonly referred to as the hypnoband.

Is gastric band hypnosis safe?

Gastric band hypnotic therapy is 100% safe. Your experienced hypnotherapist will only work with you to help you convince yourself that the decision to reduce food consumption, food types and change diet is a perfectly normal one. The only focal point of the therapy is to help the patient lose weight, reduce the size of their stomach and to increase self-confidence and feel far more positive about themselves.

What are the advantages of gastric band hypnotherapy over surgery?

The main advantage of gastric band hypnotherapy is that it allows a far more natural weight loss occurrence to take place. One thing all experts agree on is that drastic shifts in weight loss or weight gain are not good for the body and quite often with gastric band surgery, there is drastic weight loss. This puts unnecessary strain on the bodies heart and other major organs.

Other things to consider are:

  • The substantial savings in the cost of the surgery, which can be upwards of £7,000
  • No invasive surgery and associated recovery time
  • No potential surgery complications
  • Gastric band hypnosis helps train the mind about food, so manageable portions, reduction in fatty food consumption and sweet food consumption
  • Promotes a healthy more positive and optimistic future

What is involved in gastric band hypnosis?

Gastric band hypnosis is a session based therapy, you wouldn’t expect to be “cured” in a single session. We envisage 4-5 sessions have the best effect over a period. Remember most behavioural patterns, of which overeating and bad-diet are both, need to be “rained” out of our system. Gastric band hypnosis works with your subconscious mind to retrain underlying behavioural habits.

One thing you should consider is that whilst we average 4-5 sessions, each individual is different and the depth of therapy needed will vary.

Once your hypnotherapist has assessed the issues and needs of the patient and they have agreed to move forward with the treatment, a full case history is created for records purposes.

Gastric band hypnotherapy also requires supporting activity and you would expect to be provided with either an MP3 or Cd that you can play to reinforce the subliminal suggestion.

Who can gastric band hypnotherapy help?

Again, gastric band hypnotherapy is judged on a case by case basis, at my practice my clients typically are looking to lose 3 or more stone in weight (around 20 kg). However, a good hypnotherapist will judge each case based on a very in-depth assessment for suitability.

How much does it cost and how long is treatment?

Gastric band hypnotherapy typically consists of 5-7 sessions over a 5 to 9 week, period and average costs are around $2000 – $2700. This is still significant saving over gastric band surgery.

Do you want to lose weight?

Thousands of people are feeling just like you do right now. Christmas has been and gone, the festivities have brought a few extra pounds and the drinking sessions seem to have continued from there.

But deep down, you know you’re not really happy with whats going on and you want to change.

Maybe diets haven’t worked for you so far, but you’re willing to try something that will give you the positive edge you need to control the cravings you have around food.

If hypnotherapy is something that you are prepared to try, why don’t you download my free e-book on why dieting alone won’t provide the results you’ve been seeking.

Understand why Diets alone don’t maintain Weight Loss Success

Download our guide on why diets alone fail to maintain success!

Hypnotherapy supports your diet by:

  • Planting subconscious suggestion
  • Removing the need to cheat
  • Learn why dieting doesn’t change your    habits

Hypnosis has proven results in aiding weight loss.

Many people have to understand that a bad or unhealthy diet usually comes from years of habitual training of your food consumption.

Working late, lack of access to healthy, suitable alternatives, lifestyle and a lack of understanding of what’s good and what isn’t contribute.

Lazzaro guide to why diets fail will help you understand these issues.

ANXIETY-HYPNOSIS

What is Anxiety Hypnosis?
 

According to the NHS website, Generalised Anxiety Disorder or (GAD) is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe.According to the NHS website, Generalised Anxiety Disorder or (GAD) is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe.

Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life – for example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam, or having a medical test or job interview. During times like these, feeling anxious can be perfectly normal.However, some people find it hard to control their worries. Their feelings of anxiety are more constant and can often affect their daily lives.

Anxiety is the main symptom of several conditions, including:

  • panic disorder
  • phobias – such as agoraphobia or claustrophobia
  • post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
  • social anxiety disorder (social phobia)

In short, Anxiety is often at the root of the disorders most of my patients come to see me to address.

GAD is a common condition, estimated to affect up to 5% of the UK population. Slightly more women are affected than men, and the condition is more common in people from the ages of 35 to 59.

Some Facts about Anxiety in the UK

In 2016, 81.1% of the population was aged 16 and over (65,648,054) that means that some 3,282,403 people in the UK suffered with anxiety. That’s more than the population of some countries (Uruguay, Armenia, Lithuania, Slovenia, Qatar).

Notice the age of sufferers? Anxiety seems to affect us more as life tends to get more serious. The average age of a home buyer in London is 32 and the average age of new parents is 28.6 years (women) and 33.2 years for men. So there could be a direct correlation to additional life stresses, noting that the highest rates of divorce also take place between 30 and 60 years old.

This also shows that anxiety is quite normal. If anxiety is a direct reaction mentally in the body to stress, it happens frequently and readily.

Hypnotherapy for Anxiety

Anxiety hypnosis treatments are widely accepted and recognisable, as a genuine form of treatment. Hypnotherapy can help a person suffering from anxiety by subliminal messaging to promote confidence and belief in oneself. It also helps anxiety sufferers reduce stress, feelings of fear and intense worry by subconscious persuasion bringing calming thoughts reinforced with the use of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

Anxiety hypnosis therapy focuses on unlocking the subconscious aspects of your mind using the power of suggestion to instil positive change. Like any form of treatment, it can be a short permanent treatment or sometimes you may need to go back for further sessions. This all depends on the individual.

During the anxiety hypnosis therapy, your hypnotherapist if NLP trained will use positive reinforcement to help change your train of thought, but based on careful consultation prior, to establish the causes of the underlying issues.

Is anxiety hypnosis therapy an alternative to medicine?

Like any form of treatment, there will be varying degrees of success. As more people look for holistic, non-medicated forms of treatment, hypnosis and its value, is becoming far widely adopted. It is even listed as an alternative treatment on the NHS website.

But hypnotherapists are not doctors, we are not medically qualified to discuss anything other than what we understand. Many of us are learned in the study of mental health, have coaching qualifications, NLP qualifications and are strong in experience in dealing with such issues.

If you suffer from anxiety or any of its other forms it presents itself as, feel free to talk to Lazzaro how hypnotherapy works for the benefit of the individual.

Are You Too Self Critical?

Are you too Self Critical?

How do you speak to yourself? Much of the time, we’re not even aware of how we speak to ourselves or the tone and content of what we say. We are simply caught up in the stream of thoughts and internal dialogue, taking every thought that pops up as ‘fact’ and responding emotionally to it.

For many people, self criticism is the default setting; we are never good enough, mistakes are focused on and blown into epic proportions and we can ruminate all day over the terrible things other people must think of us.

In her book The Practising Happiness Workbook: How Mindfulness Can Free You From 4 Psychological Traps that Keep You Stressed, Anxious and Depressed, Ruth Baer, Ph.D, discusses the difference between constructive self criticism and non-constructive self criticism. Constructive self criticism focuses on establishing mistakes that can be improved upon for next time, while non-constructive self criticism is judgemental, it is personal and is often unbalanced. Work on becoming more mindful of whether your self criticism is truly helpful or not. Often it can help to write down example of the sorts of thoughts you have to gain an understanding of this.

Studies into self criticism actually show that it holds us back from achieving our goals; however at the root of self criticism is always a desire to do better, to improve, to help ourselves. However it often backfires and leaves us paralysed with self doubt and anxiety. I love what Alvin Soon, founder of Life Coaches blogsuggests. When the self criticism get’s too much, shout ‘Stop!’ and remember that the only real use for the critical voice is to help you to spot mistakes so you can learn from them. Try to remind yourself, that there is no such thing as failure; it’s all just a learning experience.

The psychology researcher Dr. Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis did a study into the language we use when we criticise ourselves and found that the pronoun we use makes a significant difference. Rather than saying “What am I worrying about?’ say ‘What are YOU worrying about’ to gain more of an outside perspective. When we speak to ourselves as a separate person, we are more able to give ourselves objective advice. Other examples could be ‘What could YOU learn from this experience to make it better the next time?’ and ‘Why are YOU nervous about this?’.

Another approach to gaining a clearer perspective is to take a step back; in a year from now, will this even matter? Chances are it won’t. Learn from your mistake, and let it go. Remind yourself that berating yourself doesn’t improve your chances of success. I often ask clients to think back to school. Was there a teacher who was much too aggressive and critical? Did you have another teacher who was really encouraging, kind and helpful? Which did you learn more from? Be like the kind, encouraging teacher to give yourself the best chance of success.

Self criticism is a common issue I see in my sessions room; if you’d like to explore how hypnotherapy could help you to be kinder to yourself, more constructive and to gain a clearer perspective on things, get in touch.

Contact me at this phone number, 604 202 7938

Sleep Hypnosis

Insomnia Checklist – Sleep Hypnosis

From my experience in helping people to sleep better I’ve compiled a checklist of things to make sure you are doing in order to get a good nights sleep. I’ve also included information about sleep hypnosis for you to check out too. 

1) Caffeine stays in your system for up to 14 hours after you ingest it; so it;s usually wise to avoid coffee, tea, chocolate and cola drinks after lunchtime.

2) Reading 20 mins of fiction before bed can help you to switch off and relax before sleep

3) Keep computers, ipad and mobile phones out of the bedroom and try to refrain from using them in the hour or two before bed. The blue light they emit as well as the over stimulation of the brain (and possibly those work emails, eh?) can keep you up.

4) Write yourself a to do list for the following day so that you don’t have ‘To do’s’ floating around your brain as you try to sleep.

5) Make a list of any worries that you have before bed and tell yourself that you will park these worries for now and return to worrying about them in the morning.

6) Make sure your bedroom is dark and quiet, wear ear plugs or headphones and an eye mask if necessary.

7) Try listening to a relaxing recording .

8) The food supplement 5-HTP causes us to increase levels of serotonin in the brain which can help you to feel more calm and settled.

9) Try a few yoga asanas or gentle stretches if you can’t get to sleep or if you wake up in the night. These can help to relieve tension from the body.

10) Try some 7,11 breathing. Breathe in for a count of 7 and out for 11. The ‘counts’ can be as fast or slow as you live, it’s the ratio that’s important. Continue for a few minutes and you are activating the parasympathetic nervous system, ie. Rest and digest mode, which can aid sleep.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to stop Comparing Yourself to Others

 

Whether it’s with a friend on Facebook, your partners ex, a celebrity in a magazine or the high flyer in the office; we’ve all done it.

Queue wild imaginings about how interesting/happy/good in bed that other person must be. In comparison to what we perceive as perfection, we’ll always come up short.

The perceptions we have of other people, whether based on their appearance, money, or the amazing, adventurous life they post all over Facebook, is only ever half the story. However it’s all too common for us to hang our self worth on comparisons with a perfected image that someone projects.

One thing I’ve learned as a hypnotherapist is that no matter how perfect someone may look, how impressive a job they may have or how much money they earn, everyone is dealing with something and appearances are so very rarely what they seem.

Remember that people, magazines and social media will often only display their best points. You are a work in progress; you don’t need to be perfect to be happy. In fact, the one habit most closely associated with happiness is self-acceptance.

Here are some tips for overcoming comparisonitus;
– Remind yourself daily that you are good enough, you HAVE enough and you ARE enough. I have this stuck to my mirror on a post-it as a reminder.

– If fashion magazines make you feel bad, it’s time to give them up.

– Make a daily list of all the things you’re grateful for, things that you like about yourself and things that you do well. This simple act is scientifically proven to boost happiness and satisfaction!

– Work on changing the way you speak to yourself. Would you criticise a best friend harshly? Compare a best friend to others? Don’t do it to yourself.

– There will always be people who are ‘better’ or ‘worse’ than you in some way. Remember, no one in the world can do a better job of being you than you. You have something unique to offer the world, so work on being the best version of you that you can. Remind yourself that everyday, in some way, you are getting better.

 

Talk to me about how hypnotherapy can help you to feel more confident, boost self esteem and learn how to accept yourself.

Call me at this phone number, 604 202 7938

Hypnosis for Procrastination

Overcoming Procrastination – Hypnosis for Procrastination

Do you need hypnosis for procrastination? We all know what’s it’s like to procrastinate. There’s that wonderful sense of relief from stress that we sense once we decide to postpone a task. A temporary relief from pressure. We may begin the day full of good intentions, only to end up with a tidy house, an active Facebook feed and an untouched to do list.

This can often be followed by guilt, stress and frustration later on as we panic and do the task in a state of panic, or if it just doesn’t get done at all.

This year, I’ve seen a large increase in the number of clients coming to see me for hypnosis for procrastination. Often it’s work related; this is where it may show the most, as either it affects our income or our performance at work which is often noted. But can also be around relationships, travel, health, hobbies, or sport and exercise. It’s not entirely known what causes procrastination but there appear to be links with impulsiveness, low self esteem and low self belief and fear or either success or failure.

Fear of Failure and/or Success. I experienced my own journey through overcoming procrastination last winter. There were several tasks that I needed to do that, if addressed, could have quite a profound affect on my career and yet I seemed to find an endless stream of ‘busyness’ that got in the way of me starting. For me, it was a fear of failure, or rejection; ‘What if they say no?’ or perhaps even a fear of success. ‘What if I do this and then can’t sustain it? What if people discover I’m actually a fraud?’. We all have these feelings from time (even Sheryl Sandberg) but if they are getting in the way it’s time to take action. Just recognising that a fear is causing the procrastination is a great start, so take a moment to question for yourself if this could be an issue.

Eat that frog. It’s so tempting when we first start work in the morning to ease yourselves into it. Do a few easy win tasks that aren’t too taxing first of all. I know that being self employed, it’s tempting to do choose any domestic task, be it the washing, sweeping the floor or rearranging the fridge before settling down to that task that seems like it will be hard or unpleasant. But it you start off with the hardest, most unpleasant task first, you set a precedent for yourself for achieving more that day. You realise that the task wasn’t so bad or hard after all and the good feelings associated with having done the task will spur you on to want to do more. It’s like Brian Tracy says in his book on overcoming procrastination ‘Eat That Frog!’; you’ve got to eat the biggest, ugliest frog first, then the rest won’t seem so bad.

Social Media and Email are the ultimate distractions. Sometimes it can feel almost like a drug; in fact in his brilliant book ‘Focus’, Daniel Goleman talks about how checking Facebook and email can be addictive, since it sets of the reward mechanism similar to that of when a person takes cocaine. It’s a mini hit of information so easily obtained that it drives us to continually check our phones and email for another rush of information. Try turning off the ‘push’ settings on Facebook, Twitter and your email so that it at least doesn’t bleep at you every time you get a tweet. Go one better by turning off the internet on your computer and phone for a set amount of time while you’re trying to complete a task. I’m still working on this one!

Break it into smaller chunks David Allen style. In his book ”Getting Things Done’, Allen recommends breaking every task into smaller chunks. Sometimes a single task can seem too overwhelming, too nasty andtoo big a frog to gulp down in one, so we put it off. For example, if I’m putting off writing a blog post about procrastination (haha) I can break it down. Step one, I’ll research the sources and books I’ll use for the article. Step 2, I’ll write a draft of the main key points. Step 3, I’ll pad out the draft. Step 4, I’ll do the final edit. It’s much easier to break it down and less daunting. Look, it worked!

Expectation and Intention

The Power of Expectation and Intention 

 

We all know someone who is very determined; someone who just ‘decides’ that they are going to do something… and then it just happens. They want it to happen, they expect it to happen and then it does. It looks easy. It seems effortless. Things just seem to fall in their lap. Do you know someone like that?

Would you like to tap into some of that for yourself?

The power of intention is simply this; whatever we put our intention and attention on, we bring into our lives. Evidence suggests that what we expect will happen is more likely to happen.

I know that I noticed a huge improvement in my life when I decided to get clear on what I wanted, reminded myself of it often, set goals, trained myself to expect things to happen and go well, and then, eventually, watched and enjoyed as things started to move in that direction.

Some people who have read ‘The Secret’ may believe that this is due to a ‘force of attraction’, a force of nature that causes like to attract like; whatever we focus on, good or bad, we bring into our lives.

I prefer, however, to think of it in terms of the subconscious mind.

The majority of your thoughts, feelings and actions come from the subconscious, under the surface of your conscious mind, where you have your day to day, conscious thoughts.

If our intention is rooted at this subconscious level, then our thoughts, feelings and actions are directing us towards the object of our intention.

Intention could be another way of saying ‘what you put your energy on’. If we set our intention and remind ourselves of it frequently, we could be subconsciously taking that on board. The subconscious could then be guiding us towards it’s fulfilment, helping us to focus, make the little changes and notice the opportunities that arise that help us to get there.

It’s a bit like when you’re looking to buy some new trainers. Suddenly you can’t help but notice people’s trainers all the time. You notice the ones you like that other people are wearing, you see adverts for trainers everywhere and you notice them in shop windows, when in the past they would have been something you ignored or barely noticed.

Subconsciously we’re more likely to notice opportunities and information that helps us to get closer to what we want, as well as giving us the focus we need to move towards it.

Sometimes, I’ll set an intention to get a solution to a problem, or an answer to a question that’s been troubling me. I’ll either say to myself, or write down what I want clarity on. It’s like I’m just deciding to myself that a solution is going to present itself.

It’s amazing how, often within just a few days, the answer or solution will become apparent. I discover a book that gives me the answer, I’ll meet someone that helps me, or an idea will just pop into my head.

I think this is a bit like the trainer thing, when we set an intention for something, we’re subconsciously on the lookout for answers.

And the power of expectation and intention is so strong that scientific studies have to account for it.

The gold standard for scientific studies are double blind studies, since if either the experimenter or the participant has an expectancy or intention for the outcome of the study, it is thought that this can cause them to unconsciously effect the results. It’s called ‘expectancy effects’. In studies, what the experimenter or participant thinks will happen, or wants to happen, is more likely to happen. This expectancy is similar to intention.

In the placebo effect, when a person believes that they are going to get better, this can help them to get better, even if they are just given a dummy pill rather than actual medicine. They are intending and expecting to get better and therefore they do.

Several meta analyses suggest that the placebo effect accounts for over 75% of the effectiveness of antidepressant medication and all studies into medication must be placebo controlled to account for it’s strong effect.

So how can you use the power of your intention to bring good things into your life? Here are some ideas.

Create a vision board

Creating a visual representation of the things you want for yourself can act as a quick and easy way to drip feed reminders to your subconscious. Fill a sheet of paper with all the things you want for yourself, be they work related, material possessions, health related, a holiday or another personal goal or milestone. Stick it up somewhere you can see it and review it regularly. Cultivate positive feelings of expectation as you look at your vision board and ‘expect’ it to all happen for you.

Set SMART goals

Goal setting is a great way to set your intention for something. By setting a SMART goal, you are setting it in a really specific and measurable way and you’re increasing your focus on it by setting it within a time frame. Make sure goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and within a time frame. For example, I am earning $$$$ per year by 15th August 2018.

Visualisation

In hypnotherapy and NLP we call this ‘future pacing’. The subconscious doesn’t know the difference between something we vividly imagine and a real situation. By visualising things as we would like them to be in the future, we are mentally preparing ourselves to bring them into reality, creating expectation, whilst also boosting focus and motivation needed to help us to get there. Use all of your senses; sight, feelings, thoughts, smells, tastes, sounds and sensations to make it really vivid and rich.

Remember, this works best when we set our intention and then expect it to happen!

 

Changing Habits

The secret to successfully changing habits:

 

Let’s face it, almost ALL of us want to change one habit or another, whether it’s to help us to lose weight, stop smoking, get fit, play an instrument or be more productive.

Often we’ll try to use good ol’ willpower to create or change a habit.

However the problem with willpower is that it’s a limited resource that actually depletes our glucose reserves. It’s like exercising a muscle; and it can get fatigued and loses energy the more we use it.

Ever noticed how after a few days on a diet you fall off the wagon in a spectacular (and carb laden) way? Or a few days into your new fitness regime, going to the gym seems like a Sisyphean task? It’s the willpower muscle finally buckling and giving way.

The truth is our brains are on a mission to conserve energy. A habit is like a well trodden path that’s easier to go follow. To stray from that habit uses up willpower, and therefore energy.

If we want to change a habit, we need lessen the need to rely on willpower as much as possible and make the new habit an easier option.

In his book, ‘The Happiness Advantage’ Sean Achor talks about lowering the amount of energy needed to change a habit, to make them easier to stick to.

The example that he uses is of playing the guitar. At first he has to go to the cupboard in the hall to get his guitar out before he can practise it. He noticed that he was hardly practising at all.

He discovered that by putting his guitar next to the sofa, where he could easily see it, pick it up to play it there and then, he massively increased the amount that he practised. Just the act of having it closer to hand lowered the amount of willpower he needed to create the new habit.

This works the same with other things; take eating junk food for for example. If you have junk food within easy reach, you’re going to be much for likely to eat it compared with if it’s locked away in a cupboard up high, or even sitting in the shop 10 minutes walk away.

Now I’m not saying that not having it in the house makes it impossible to eat it! Of course not! It’s just that the extra effort required to go to the shop, or reach up high into the cupboard, could be enough to make NOT eating the junk food an easier option.

Other examples include packing your gym clothes the night before to make it easier to work out, or getting an app (like Antisocial) on your computer to block social media between certain hours, making it harder to surf Facebook or Twitter at will.

Having systems in place to make things easier for you to change a habit could make all the difference.

I’d love to know one specific example of how you could use this in your life. 

For information on hypnotherapy in Vancouver contact me at this phone number: 604 202 7938

Hypnotherapy Myths Busted

The word ‘hypnotherapy’ can conjure up various images in many people’s minds; that gag from Little Britain (“Look into my eyes not around the eyes look into my eyes!”) the swinging pendulum, people being made to quack like a dog…

I’m often being asked to bust myths around hypnotherapy give people the low down on what it’s really like, rather than the (slightly sinister!) image it sometimes gets on TV and in the movies.

  1. You’ll be ‘put under’ and you’ll lose control

This is a biggie that I hear a lot and a common concern that people have around hypnotherapy. I have to say that nobody gets ‘put under’. I hate this term! I reminds me of of getting put under general anesthetic, which of course, hypnotherapy is nothing like.

The somewhat more boring truth is that you’re aware of everything that happens during a hypnotherapy session and you don’t get ‘put under’ anything!

I help clients to calm down the conscious, ‘thinking’ part of the mind, so that their subconscious can listen in and take positive things on board.

It often feels very relaxing, sometimes like daydreaming. You could take yourself out of the experience at any time, if you wanted to.

  1. Many people can’t go in to ‘hypnosis’

What people don’t realise about hypnotherapy is that it’s a really natural state of mind, and we go into similar states several times during the day.

When we day-dream, get mega relaxed in front of the TV, or do things on autopilot, we’re in a similar state of mind to hypnosis.

Anyone can do it…if they want to!

  1. You won’t remember anything from the session

Although it’s nice to think a hypnotherapist will wave their magic wand and cure us overnight, it’s not quite how it works.

During a session you’re often required to engage in the process, using your imagination help seed an idea into your unconscious mind.

You’ll still be aware of what’s being said in the session.

  1. It’s mainly used for stopping smoking

Many people first think of stopping smoking when they think of hypnotherapy, but it’s even more commonly used these days for issues like anxiety and confidence issues and even IBS, for which it’s approved by NICE.

  1. It’s mind control

Do you really think anyone could control your mind?!

In fact, it’s more about getting back in control of old, unhelpful patterns of thinking and feeling.

To find out more about hypnotherapy sessions in Vancouver, call me at this phone number. 604 202 7938.

Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

Morbid post alert! I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry. This is way too much of an important topic not to write about!

When I think about people looking back over their lives with a sense of regret, it makes me feel really sad.

But, I know how easy it can be to go through your life ‘putting up’ with issues that seem too troublesome to tackle, feeling too afraid to confront them or just getting caught up in the busyness of every day life to do the things they really want to do. Change can seem really hard.

So sometimes a book or an idea, that really hits you in the gut, is just the thing to be the catalyst for change. This is that book.

In Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, Bronnie  draws on her experience as a palliative care nurse.  Through working closing with people who were dying, she saw similar themes around regret cropping up again and again.

Here are the themes that she noticed. I invite you to consider whether any of these could apply to you, so that you might have the awareness to make changes now, and avoid the regret in the future. I know I’ll be doing this.

  1. ”I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”This, apparently, is the most common regret of all. What dreams do you want to fulfill? Are you following your own path, or someone else’s? What action can you take today to start doing more of what you want today?

2.”I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” If you’re someone that works too hard (like I can sometimes) this might hit you like a tonne of bricks. It’s easy to allow work to become all consuming, and to believe that there will always be ‘some other time’ to relax and do things we enjoy or spent time with the people we love.

The time to enjoy your life is now. Is it time to get off the treadmill of work and make more time for you?

  1. ”I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.” Bronnie notes that lots of us suppress our feelings because we don’t want to rock the boat or upset other people.

Bitterness and resentment are the result; sense of not being free.

Are you holding something in? What steps could you take to be more open and courageous when expressing yourself? It might be hard at first, but it gets easier and the results can be powerful.

4.”I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.” Many people get so caught up in their own lives that old friends get left behind. ”Everyone misses their friends when they’re dying” Bronnie says.

I challenge you to reach out to 3 old friends today – send them a letter, email or give them a call. I’m sure they’ll be thrilled to hear from you.

  1. ”I wish that I had let myself be happier” ”Many people don’t realise until the end of their lives that happiness is a choice”, says Bronnie. I invite you to think about how you can bring more play, silliness and joy in to your life.

I’ve you’ve been stuck in old patterns, it can be comforting and familiar to want to stay the same, but change is possible.

Now, I’d love to hear, do any of these ring true for you? What step can you take today to make a change? 

Ready to make a change? Get in touch with me for hypnotherapy sessions in Vancouver.

Hypnotherapy for Social Anxiety

 

Social anxiety is a very common issue and it’s something I’m seeing more clients for lately. It’s also something I’ve had success in helping clients to overcome.

What is Social Anxiety?

A lot of people are shy and don’t look forward to being involved in social situations but social anxiety is a lot more severe than this. It’s a fear of social activities that can cause intense panic, both during the situation itself and in the time leading up to it.

If you have social anxiety, here are some of the things that may affect you:

  • Worrying that you’ll do or say something embarrassing in front of other people and that you’ll look or sound silly
  • Worrying that you’re boring and don’t have anything interesting to add to conversations
  • Having symptoms such as sweating, shaking, feeling sick, feeling lightheaded, palpitations and a shaky voice in social situations or when you think about them
  • Feeling as though you’re being judged by other people in social situations

All of this can make you feel panicky at the prospect of any social situation (including meeting strangers, speaking on the phone and having conversations with people) and I’ve had clients tell me that they try to avoid them as much as possible.

This fear can be linked to a past experience where a social situation caused embarrassment or anxiety and this paved the way for social anxiety. It’s a way for the subconscious mind to try to protect you by not getting involved in a situation where this could happen again.

Another theory is that certain ways of thinking can play a part too. Some of my clients have found that they automatically start thinking about what could go wrong in a social situation and this causes them to panic. Often, they have had negative thought patterns in general and low self esteem.

Most people who have social anxiety don’t want to feel like they do but feel their fears are out of their control. The clients I’ve worked with have been desperate to overcome their fears and not feel that they’re being held back by their social anxiety.

With hypnotherapy for social anxiety, learned behaviours and unhelpful thinking can be challenged and changed so that social situations are no longer a source of great fear and panic.

Here are a few tips on managing social anxiety:

Challenge your thoughts

Do you find yourself making negative predictions before you go into a social situation and trying to second guess what people think of you when you’re there? This causes a massive amount of anxiety and saps your confidence right from the off.

These unhelpful thoughts are what is driving your social anxiety but remember that they aren’t proven facts and can be challenged. Once you start recognizing unhelpful thoughts and unpicking their significance, you can start to get on top of social anxiety.

Hypnotherapy for social anxiety can help you to replace negative, unhelpful thoughts with positive alternatives.

Don’t focus on yourself as much

If you have social anxiety, it’s likely that you’ll spend a lot of time focusing on the physical effects of your fear and this can encourage you to feel self conscious and vulnerable in a social situation. Your anxiety is a lot more obvious to you than it is to other people and most people won’t pick up on it. Focusing on things other than yourself when you’re in social situations can reduce some of the self consciousness you feel.

Avoiding safety behaviours

Avoiding social situations is a common safety behaviour for people with social anxiety but it doesn’t protect you as much as you might think.

Other safety behaviours can include leaving social situations as quickly as you can or staying on the fringes so that you don’t draw attention to yourself.

These actions don’t protect you as much as you may think and in stopping you from proving to yourself that you can cope well in social situations, they just keep social anxiety going.

Gradually breaking free of safety behaviours is a scary but very necessary part of overcoming social anxiety.

Put these tips into action to get the ball rolling and get in touch with me today to discuss how hypnotherapy for social anxiety can help you!

Hypnotherapy for Self Esteem

Do you need hypnotherapy for self esteem? Do you tend to have a negative view of yourself and what you are really worth? We all have days when we don’t feel so good about ourselves but if you feel like this most of the time, it can be a sign that you have low self esteem.

This is a really common issue and I see lots of clients who are struggling with self esteem issues. Poor self esteem can affect other parts of your life too, including your mental health and relationships and hold you back in life

If you have low self esteem, here are some of the things that may be true:

  • Being overly critical of yourself and believing negative things about yourself
  • Comparing yourself to other people and drawing negative results
  • Feeling negatively about life in general
  • Not feeling able to deal with challenges in your life
  • Avoiding situations that may challenge you or scare you (including social situations)
  • Not feeling able to assert yourself
  • Blaming yourself for things you’re not at fault for
  • Feeling that you don’t deserve to be happy
  • Worrying that no one likes you

Here are some tips for boosting your self esteem:

Identify your negative beliefs

With low self esteem, a lot of your thoughts about yourself are likely to be negative and this can become second nature.

Recognising examples of this in your everyday life is really important for building your self esteem. Write them down and challenge the “evidence” for them. You’ll probably find that there is no real evidence behind your beliefs but there is plenty of facts to dispute them.

Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to see yourself in a more positive light and challenge negative views of yourself.

Accept who you are

One of the big reasons behind low self esteem is the desire to be someone other than yourself and not accepting who you are as a person.

If you don’t like who you are as a person and are constantly wanting to change this, it’s hard to feel good about yourself or see yourself in a positive light.

You may never like yourself 100% and there will probably always be the odd thing you’d like to change. If you can get most of the way there, this self acceptance  can boost your self esteem. Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to get there.

Don’t compare yourself to other people

When your self esteem is low, it’s easy to feel as though everyone else is better than you and you can never measure up to them.

The reality is this: no one is perfect and everyone has plus and minus points. And just like you, these people are probably also dealing with their issues. There’s also a good chance that they have things that they don’t like about themselves too, no matter how they seem on the outside.

Seeing the bigger picture and not comparing yourself negatively to other people is a key part of building your self esteem.

Focus on your strengths

When your self esteem is low, you’re more likely to focus on negative things about yourself and gloss over the good points. Sometimes, you may not even recognise what you’re good at or what other people may admire about you.

We’re all good at something, even if we can’t always admit when this is the case! Pick one thing that you can use a positive starting point and focus on this to begin with. It doesn’t matter so much what this is as long as it’s something you can take pride in. Hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to focus in on your strengths and abilities.

Don’t be afraid to say no

Do you find yourself agreeing to everything (even if you don’t really want to) because you don’t have the confidence to say no to people?

Finding the strength to say no to situations that don’t feel comfortable to you can be a big deal if you’re not used to it but it can be very liberating!

Don’t avoid difficult situations

Self esteem can make you more prone to social anxiety and this can encourage you to avoid any situations that are likely to be anxiety inducing or challenging.

This is your mind’s way of protecting you but from a self esteem perspective, it’s actually denying you the opportunity to come through the situation and change what you think you know about yourself. It “confirms” all of the doubts in your mind and reinforces the negative beliefs in your mind.

Put these tips into action and talk to me today to discuss how hypnotherapy for self esteem can help you to feel about yourself and stop holding you back.

Be More Assertive

How to Start Being More Assertive

As a hypnotherapist, I see a lot of clients who want to become more assertive. This tends to go hand in hand with low self esteem and low self respect and can also cause stress and even resentment, which has a knock on effect for your whole well-being.

What is Assertiveness?

Being assertive means that you feel comfortable expressing your opinion or feelings and standing up for your needs without feeling bad or guilty about it.

Some people make the mistake of thinking that being assertive means being aggressive but these are actually two entirely different ways of behaving. Being assertive involves being firm but also with a calm and measured approach.

If you’re struggling to be assertive, here are a few things that may be true for you:

  • You feel incredibly anxious (and maybe physically ill) at just the thought of getting involved in a confrontation
  • You’re very uncomfortable or afraid of offering your opinion to others, especially if it’s different to theirs
  • You’re frequently being treated as a pushover by other people and feel resentful and angry about this
  • You’re not able to say “no” if you don’t want to do something
  • You feel stressed or even overwhelmed because of the demands being put on you by other people

Here are some tips for being more assertive:

Work out where you need to focus more

Even if you’re passive in general, there may well be particular parts of your life that you’d really like to be more assertive in such as work or in social situations. You may also be more passive when you’re with particular people. Working out which areas you need to assert yourself the most is a great first step for developing the skills you’ll need to put this into action.

Focus on “I” statements

The words that you use when you’re trying to be assertive can make all the difference when it comes to commanding the respect you want to get. Focusing on yourself and how you feel is a better tactic than using “you” as the other person is a lot less likely to feel that they’re being accused of something and go on the defensive. Make your statements concise and get to the point quickly so that you appear firm and in control.

For example, instead of telling a colleague who piles too much pressure on you that “you never pull your weight”, you could try saying something along the lines of “I feel that we work so much better as a team”. This approach is generally a lot less aggressive in how it comes across and will get a better reaction from the other person.

Avoid being so passive

Being afraid to assert yourself is often the result of wanting to keep the peace but what this type of passive behaviour really says to other people is that their thoughts, feelings or needs are more important than yours. This gives them a green light to behave and act as though this is indeed the case.

Being more assertive can be a big challenge if you’re used to being passive most or all of the time but it’s what you need to do to start putting your own needs first and reducing stress and anxiety.

Hypnotherapy for assertiveness can help you to learn the skills you’ll need to move away from being passive and feel more comfortable standing up for yourself when you need to.

Say no

Being too scared to say no to people can mean that you stretch yourself far too thinly and pile more stress on yourself. Often, this is because you are scared of upsetting people but think of it as rebalancing your own needs so that their needs aren’t put above yours.

Practice makes perfect

Being assertive for the first time can be incredibly nerve wracking but trust me, it does get easier the more you do it!

Being more assertive in your mind is one thing but it can be a whole different story when it comes to putting it into action in a real situation. Practicing in front of the mirror or with a friend can make it feel less daunting and help you to feel more at ease with being assertive on a face-to-face basis.

Put these tips into action and get in touch with me today to start talking about how hypnotherapy for assertiveness can help you to start putting your needs first.

Replace Before Stress

Replace Before Stress

Hello again and welcome to my blog… This week’s blog is going to concentrate on an area of life that I think sometimes gets forgotten. And that thing that gets forgotten your ability to preemptively solve issues!  So what are really talking about here? Okay, so got a few examples…

You having a really busy week, and like many people, you could just do with a few more hours each day, sound familiar? Before you go to work, you’ve put on dishwasher and the washing, got the children up and cleaned, teeth brushed, had the breakfast fight and now they’re off to school. You go to work with all the stresses and the deadlines and targets that it brings. You look forward to finishing when you can get home spend some time with the family, evening meal and then settled down for just maybe an hour’s relaxation, maybe even read a book in bed. Once home you discover that the washing machine hasn’t clicked around and drained and spun the washing from earlier on. The doors locked and the clothes wet. You know there’s more washing out piling up and this is just another stress that you could do without! You begin looking for either repair or replacement and often in today’s replacement culture it’s often easier to get a replacement, especially if your machine is a few years old. You go online and purchase one and of course the model you want isn’t available but they will get it to you and deliver it in five working days. Five working days go by, they text and tell you that they going to deliver but you find yourself having to pop out for 30 minutes and it just so happens that’s when they arrived.

Because all this is familiar. And of course you could substitute anything instead of the washing machine… The fact is that it is highly likely that that washing machine began to develop symptoms, showing you signs that all was not well and the breakdown was imminent. Maybe was a boiler not heating the water to the right temperature, perhaps it’s the television not switching on when you press the button you have to do something quirky?  Perhaps it’s the car’s air con? Or maybe more seriously you’re having more arguments at home with loved ones, or maybe feeling more nervous about going to work?

Why do we allow things to go so far and critically fail before we do anything about them? I mean at the earliest hint of problems with the washing machine why did we fix it? Why didn’t we just get rid of all the stress before it happens? Similarly, in relationship, why do we allow the disagreements or the arguing to happen and ultimately maybe reach a critical point? Or maybe why continue to smoke when you know exactly what is doing to you? There are an infinite number of reasons and things that we let run their course before we take action, reaction…

I suppose what I’m saying, is just imagine if we all watched out a little bit more and took action at the first signs of critical failures or problems or presenting issues. The first time you get nervous about something that previously didn’t really worry you. Maybe it’s just the oven and is not getting hot enough… When I see clients, they often say that they’ve put up with things for years and it’s now time to change. People will only change when they are fully ready to change that’s for sure. But why would you like something gets so critical before you make a decision to change?

Hypnotherapy and coaching can really facilitate stepped or gradual changes in both personal and professional arenas and areas of your life. Why wait until the pressure is on and you are imminently expecting a critical failure? Contact me to talk about how you can change your mind-set, your approach or change those things you would want to change.  I’m available in Vancouver when you’re ready to change.

We In-prison Ourselves

I will talk today about our own minds and freeing ourselves from within them. Sometimes we, our subconscious mind, places one’s self in the mind prison on purpose and other times we find ourselves unknowingly creating our own cell.

 

Okay, so I was travelling yesterday, transiting from seeing one client to attend a meeting in central Southampton and what really surprised me was the number of people with their eyes fixated on a mobile phone. Now we call the mobile phones smartphones but they aren’t really. They are not smart and incidentally have you tried making a call at the moment while on the move? You find that they hardly keep signal. But anyway I digress, as I drove down the street I estimate that 90% of people were walking around looking at that tiny screen, even in groups. I turned left at traffic lights and one pedestrian almost walked in front of me, again guess what, eyes on the screen not on the road… What makes it worse, apart from the lack of social interaction with the people they were with, is that even as I sat there are traffic lights the amount of people that were driving that were looking at their phones whilst at the traffic lights was incredible; every car that had a passenger without fail, was glued to their phone. More about this later.

 

When people have fears, whatever that may be: spiders; salad (yes that is a phobia); fear of being judged; lack of confidence, often it isn’t the thing they’re scared of, it’s the adrenaline they receive when they think they are can be placed into a situation and that they may lose control. Really, what people are most afraid of is expectancy of fear. They convince themselves that their fear is going to hurt them which reinforces the need for adrenaline even more when in effect it is the fear of the event which is what we fear the most.

 

What Is My Prison?

 

I used a metaphor a few days ago to explain how I understood how a client felt, like been stuck in your own prison cell of your own making. And yet when you really consider it, the walls and the bars just made a paper, you could put your hands right through them. That’s absolutely true!

 

The reason that people don’t break free, and breakout from these paper thin walls is the fear, a new situation, the unknown, it’s perceived as safe in here. However, this isn’t living in fact, in reality it is just surviving.  

 

Escape

 

So how do how do you escape the cell? Well, firstly you have to agree that the cell is not really there? Agree that these thoughts are nothing more than self-limiting beliefs… The rest? That’s something I’ll do for you here in Vancouver with hypnotherapy and coaching… Hypnosis can be amazing for dealing with all these Adrenalin related conditions.

 

But what about the mobile phones you may be thinking? It’s such a powerful medium, more so than the television ever was. The establishment, companies, et cetera can reach you wherever you are, whoever you with and you are maybe becoming addicted to the technology in front of you. Ever tried going out without your phone? Feels worse than being naked. Seriously, apart from the highly addictive interactive nature of these devices it’s a way of imprisoning you. Try to put down the phone, take a walk outside and re-engage with the world around you, life is a gift that is too precious to be squandered looking at the mobile phone screen.

 

Anyway, lots to be doing!  

What is Hypnosis Like?

Hope that you are all well and that as the summer approaches you have some plans for some time off and to get some relaxation in.  I would say that you should set aside time daily just for you.  This is what you are need but it is not always that easy is it?

A friend of mine showed me one of her paintings recently and it automatically resonated with me. This painting shows what some people experience during deep meditation and of course it’s a very similar vivid imagery to that reported by many clients when they are in hypnosis. It’s a wonderful picture, thank you so much Jenny for letting me use it.  It really needed to be shown because it really does provide a picture of what hypnosis can be like. This led me to think that I should provide a blog and explain to people in a little depth about what they may experience while in hypnosis.

 

Signs of being in hypnosis…

There is no doubt that hypnosis is relaxing. Why is that? What will you experience? Certainly one of the questions that I do get asked an awful lot is ‘What will I experience in hypnosis?’ I’d like to answer that question because people experience many different things, and hypnosis is very often unique to the individual and therefore very difficult to be able to say for certain.

The following are some common signs of hypnosis:

  • Time distortion
  • A sense of feeling really heavy
  • A sense of feeling really light
  • Finding difficult or impossible to open the eyes or move arms or hands
  • Seeing bright colours
  • Seeing vivid images
  • Mind wondering and thinking of other things and been aware of not listening to what the hypnotist is saying
  • A sense of being distant

These are just some of the signs of being in a trance.  Sometimes a client will remember everything, sometimes remember nothing and yes sometimes it’s in between, a little bit like remembering a dream. When you consider that the deepest levels of hypnosis reside on the edge of sleep and the lightest states of hypnosis reside on the edge of conscious awareness then it’s easy to understand why people feel say this.

 

Does hypnosis have to be deep for it to be effective?

Somebody who can enter a very deep level of hypnotic trance can be said to be susceptible to hypnosis, and that’s great. But, suggestibility whilst in hypnosis is what the therapist is really is wanting. Somebody who’s highly susceptible and highly suggestible is potentially the perfect client, however, for the majority of us, having a level of susceptibility and an amount of suggestibility either indirectly or directly is enough to allow change to occur.

 

What is suggestibility?

High Suggestibility is the term given to somebody who under hypnosis can really learn from the session and the changes they make are often very profound rather than gradual. Of course, low suggestibility clients may attain gradual changes.

 

So what?

Well, I hope that I’ve explained a little bit more about what you may experience whilst being in hypnosis.  It is wonderfully relaxing and most clients have a feeling of deep calm, euphoria or even emotions obviously depending on what is that is being worked with. Whatever happens, hypnosis is a truly relaxing experience and fantastically effective as a complete de-stress experience!

Mobile Phone Addiction

With the launch of the latest iPhones, I would like to highlight something that is becoming more and more obvious and worrying.  The addiction to the mobile phone/cell.  Have you gone out without your phone recently? How lost did you feel? Naked perhaps? Nervous or jittery? You are not alone…

 

“Mobile phone usage is so strongly integrated into young people‘s behaviour that symptoms of behavioural addiction, such as cell phone usage interrupting their day-to-day activities. The main aim of this paper is to investigate aspects of the emerging literature on the impact of mobile phones on adolescent’s lives. There are several reviews addressing the definition, Mobile phone addiction symptoms, Assessment of Mobile phone addiction, Negative effect of Mobile phone addiction on adolescents and some reviews addressing the role of Mobile phone addiction on adolescent’s mental and physical health.”

 

Goswami, V., and Rani Singh, D. (2016). Impact of mobile phone addiction on adolescent’s life: A literature review. International Journal of Home Science. 2(1). Pp. 69-74

 

The addiction goes well beyond simply talking on the device – there are obvious signs of compulsive behaviours in checking the phone for messages, playing games when a moment arises or listening to music and worrying about battery life… Here are some statistics from the internet on teen mobile use:

  1. 59 percent of parents feel their teens are addicted to their mobile devices
  2. 78 percent of teens check their mobile devices at least hourly
  3. 72 percent of teens feel an urgent need to immediately respond to texts
  4. 44 percent of teens believe they spend too much time on their cell phones
  5. 77 percent of parents feel their teens get distracted by their cell phones. For example, they fail to pay attention to other people at family events
  6. 30 percent of both teens and parents claim to argue about mobile devices and cell phones on a daily basis
  7. 44 percent of teens use their mobile devices at the dinner table.

 

Does this sounds common… so what do parents do about this? Apart from argue perhaps.  “Let’s not all check our phones, or, let’s put them in one room of the house etc.” Do you find that the rule gets broken easily, but… by who?  32% parents are said to break first rushing to the phone or letting the rule slip by unnoticed. This is an epidemic affecting the whole population, all age groups and generations. I feel that this is only going to get worse.

 

If you are feeling genuinely addicted to the cell phone, and if you desperately desire to change, then hypnotherapy can help break the habit and addiction. Contact me today to discuss how I can help you. Stop being a mobile phone zombie.

Meditation – Why bother?

Mindfulness seemed to have hit the streets sometime in 2011.  Williams and Penman brought their book, finding peace in a frantic world, to the shelves and mindfulness meditation seemed to have seriously taken off! Mindfulness is about training the mind to accept thoughts and allowing them to simply be acknowledged. The book reveals a number of simple meditations (there is also a CD in a plastic wallet in the back of the book) which help break the cycle of so many modern day issues such as the cycle of unhappiness, stress, anxiety and mental exhaustion. Mindfulness is about finding moments of peace and promotes acceptance and stillness, physically and mentally.  It is about promoting happiness and confidence levels.

Mindfulness; Finding peace in a frantic world by Williams and Penman (2011).

 

What is meditation? (here is the popular link to begin your journey of understanding, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meditation )  It could be said that meditation is the art of contemplation, of thinking or of reflection.  Possibly even considered to be prayer or self-study or rather study of the self. I particularly like the Buddhist explanation.  Meditation is to seek clarity to gain emotional positivity and experience peace, tranquility and calm.

 

Meditation is about taking responsibility for one’s own state of mind. Then to transform one’s perspectives positively. Buddhism considers this the only antidote to our personal anxieties, fears, hatreds, and general confusions that beset us as humans.  By understanding our own minds we can transform the way we think, our understanding improves and we become emotionally stronger, transforming to be the best us we can and would wish to be

 

There are many differing types of meditation, which I don’t wish to go into here.  Rather I will briefly share my own experience. When I first began to meditate, I quickly discovered that I was able to visit very vivid places in my imagination, it was like dreaming while I was awake. During these guided meditations I went to beaches, met with relatives no longer with me, houses in the forest – past life experiences and more! I spend a great deal of my time meditating and continuing this journey in order to gain enlightenment and direction in my life, I am not sure that I could be without these moments in the future – in fact, I do try to meditate daily.  The best time that I have found is early in the morning, the time between awake and asleep. If you are familiar with
 ‘the secret’ and ‘the law of attraction’ ,  then I would suggest that this is the best time to practice visualizing with your vision boards or for sending messages of gratitude.

 

In any case, whether it be mindfulness or simply letting learning come to you, I would highly recommend that everyone should at least attempt to learn some meditation techniques and to understand if this highly interesting, effective and calming practice is for you.  If you would like to learn more,

 

If you would like to understand more and learn the art of meditation , I could help you, please do contact me at: 604 202 7938

The Use Of Language In Therapy

What is a Modal Verb?

A modal verb is defined as an auxiliary verb which expresses the strength of an attitude or belief in someone’s will.  That is the likelihood, ability, permission and obligation of the individual. I think that it would be best to provide an example here:

  • I am going swimming… (100% commitment)
  • I might go swimming… (50% commitment)
  • I may go swimming… (50% commitment)

Other modal words are; can; could; would; should; shall; must; will.  In the therapy room, and coaching arena, a coach will be listening for the use of certain words and as I mentioned, when you hear these types of words often enough, you realise that there is a varying degree of subconscious commitment to action, this is not great and of course needs exploration.

There are other words (state verbs) of course, for example, wish… or like… words that suggest a desire of course. These words suggest a state that the client desires to get to but considers unable to!

 

Awareness, Realisation and Insight

Other verbs that I listening out for are words such as; appears; believe; have; need; remember; seems; understand; want; like; mean; suppose; suspect. These have the same real meaning and once spoken, the coach or therapist becomes aware of a client’s moment of realisation. These are all great words if you are wanting for someone to indicate that they are willing to learn and gain from a moment of insight.

 

What do Coaches Really Want To Hear?

I included the above, just to provide examples of the types of words that are often used in the therapy room or within the coaching context.  I could not begin to list every word that any client could use, this blog would, quite literally become the size of the dictionary.  Instead, I have provided only a taster into the work of the coach and therapist. Not only am I listening actively for meaning and hidden meanings;I am also listening to the words spoken for the subconscious feelings behind the words.  I am also listening out for new insight at the same time – I am sure that sometimes people think that coaches or therapists are merely sitting there with the client saying ‘tell me more about that?’.  No, your coach is usually being very busy indeed – taking notes and thinking of connections, themes and of course everything above. Busy busy!  What your coach will be seeking at the end is “I will…. or I am…”.  The word I shows ownership and the Will and Am shows commitment.

 

This has been a very brief glimpse into the language world of the coach and therapist but I wanted to share this with everyone to assist with helping and listening day to day. Please, do practice listening and see how you begin to understand more about the person you are listening to.

How Many Sessions Do I Need?

The Issue

There is no doubt that therapy is beneficial and the majority of clients get the change that they seek, if it didn’t work hypnotherapists would quickly go out of business! There are so many differing ways that you could address your wellness issue – counselling, psychotherapy, et cetera.  With a number of these talking therapies there seems, at least to me, to be something that client and therapist engage with over a great number of sessions, people seem to expect that this is an enduring process. Yet with hypnotherapy this seems to be a different expectancy. When clients contact me, in 95% of cases one of the questions is “how many sessions will I need?”

 

Experience Says

When I first started working in hypnotherapy, I believed that I could fix everyone in just one session and I would be quite upset if I didn’t do this. Today, I am obviously much more pragmatic and I know that there are so many reasons why change isn’t instant, more so gradual in nature.  So, what is the answer?

  • You could experience full, complete change in just session.
  • You may experience gradual change over a number of sessions leading to recovery.

No matter the circumstances, I will now always recommend a second session even if you get the full change you desire straight away. If you experience gradual change, then my advice is to keep going as it is working for you!

 

Long Term Sustainability

There are a number of studies which allude to long term sustainable change being linked to reinforcement at, and during the early stages – the more reinforcement, the greater probability of long term success.   I do, however, understand that there is a cost to the client. This has to be balanced with the cost versus benefit question.

So what is the simple answer – approach therapy with an open mind and accept that if you want to improve your condition, then you may well need a number of sessions, 3 as a minimum.  You will know when you no longer need to see your therapist.

My Promise  

To help my clients, I have a very simple and straightforward promise. I promise that:

“I will do everything I can to help provide real, lasting, and sustainable change in as few sessions as is needed.”

 

Warning

I do have something that I feel is very important to those seeking hypnotherapy and therapy in general. There are unfortunately, a number of hypnotherapists that state that they offer 4 or 6 or even as many as 10 sessions – my question is… how do they know that is the number the client needs? 

 

How does the brain process emotions?

The emotion centre is the oldest part of the human brain: why is mood so important?

“Somebody woke up on the wrong side of bed this morning.” You know that comment; the one that rarely makes you feel any more gracious towards the world (or the person saying it). At other times you might feel particularly gracious and sunny, for no reason at all.

Our mood is a transient frame of mind that influences how we think and view the world. It is influenced by events in our lives, the amount of sleep we get, hormones, even the weather. But what role does the brain play in shaping our mood?

The limbic system
Many regions fundamental to mood are buried deep in the most primordial parts of the brain; that is, they are thought to have been among the first to develop in the human species. This is probably because mood is evolutionarily important.

Being glum can be advantageous and has been shown to sharpen our eye for detail, for instance. But, overall, the brain seems geared towards maintaining a mildly positive frame of mind. Being in a good mood makes us more likely to seek new experiences, be creative, plan ahead, procreate and adapt to changing conditions.

The limbic system is the major primordial brain network underpinning mood. It’s a network of regions that work together to process and make sense of the world.

If you feel great, the hippocampus might guide you to walk down a path fringed with daffodils.

Neurotransmitters, such as serotonin and dopamine, are used as chemical messengers to send signals across the network. Brain regions receive these signals, which results in us recognising objects and situations, assigning them an emotional value to guide behaviour and making split-second risk/reward assessments.

The limbic system sits under the cerebrum (the largest and newest part of the brain) and is made up of structures such as the hypothalamus, hippocampus and the amygdala.

The almond-shaped amygdala attaches emotional significance to events and memories. It came to the attention of emotion researchers in 1939 when monkeys whose amygdalae were removed showed bizarre patterns of behaviour. They became fearless, hypersexual and either devoid of emotion or irrationally aggressive.

Dubbed Kluver-Bucy Syndrome, it is rare in humans, but has been observed in people with amygdala damage incurred, for instance, after a bout of brain inflammation.

The hippocampus, meanwhile, reminds us which courses of action are congruent with our mood. For instance, if you feel great you might like to walk down a path fringed with daffodils. If you feel crap, you may instead be drawn to that bar that spins melancholy albums by The Smiths.

The hippocampus has been shown to be shrunken in people with chronic depression. This may account for common features of the condition, such as vague or non-specific recall of personal memories.

The limbic system also regulates biological functions in line with our mood, such as accelerated heart rate and sweating triggered by feeling flustered. Being so old, however, the limbic system is rather primitive. In day-to-day life it’s controlled by some newer networks that co-ordinate how we think and act, so our behaviour is conducive to achieving longer-term goals, rather than always going wherever the mood takes us.

Researchers are increasingly looking towards newer networks to understand how the brain controls mood. Two particular networks that stand out across numerous studies are the autobiographic memory network and cognitive control network.

The autobiographic memory network processes information related to ourselves, including recalling personal memories and self-reflection. Key hubs in this network comprise brain areas inside the prefrontal cortex, which sits in the front of the brain; the hippocampus; the posterior cingulate cortex, which is the upper part of the limbic lobe; and parietal regions, which sit behind the frontal lobe and are important for mental imagery.

The cognitive control network links up regions that co-ordinate our attention and concentration so that we can complete tasks. It recruits a circuit of the front part of the cingulate cortex and dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, which are specialised for cold, unemotional, rational thought.

These two networks are thought to have a strained relationship. The autobiographic memory network switches on when someone is preoccupied by thoughts concerning themselves. This causes the task-oriented cognitive control network to switch off, thereby reducing our ability to complete whatever task we’re supposed to be doing. This is why daydreaming is frowned on at work.

Conversely, the autobiographic memory network is suppressed when the cognitive control network is required to gather the attention needed for a task at hand. This is in line with the notion that we “lose ourselves” when we are absorbed doing something.

When the two networks don’t work properly, they can result in what psychiatrists refer to as mood disorders.

The two major types of mood disorders are depressive disorders, characterised by a persistent down mood, and bipolar disorders, expressed as extreme high or manic moods that alternate with periods of feeling down.

In depressive disorders, the autobiographic memory network gets stuck being on. This leads to thinking-too-much-about-ourselves symptoms, such as brooding, rumination and self-loathing. The concurrent suppression of the cognitive control network gives rise to symptoms such as poor concentration, indecisiveness and sluggish thinking.

Treatment for depressive disorders, such as transcranial magnetic stimulation, involves stimulating the cognitive control network to work better. And medications aim to restore normal levels of neurochemicals that communicate between the two networks and the limbic systems.

Many psychological therapies empower the sufferer to wrest control over their own mood. They often train the person to activate the cognitive control network, by challenging negative thoughts for instance, to strengthen it over time. They also seem to disrupt the domination of the autobiographic memory network through techniques such as mindfulness.

While trying to understand the neuroscience behind disordered mood is necessary, there is a push in psychology for mood investigations to focus more on the positives in everyone’s psychology; involving the fostering of resilience and our individual strengths, for instance.

Much like the zeitgeist itself, however, investigations into the brain’s role in these functions are in their infancy.

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Stroke Rehabilitation

I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become” Carl Yung


The victims of stroke consider themselves to be survivors because not everybody lives after the event. Currently, it’s reported that “one in eight people die within 30 days of having a stroke”  which means that it’s vital that people receive the correct medical treatment as soon as possible afterwards, be under no illusions that this is a medical emergency. Here are some of the most common symptoms that people need to be aware of:

 

                                                                              Facial weakness.
                                                                              Arm weakness.
                                                                              Speech problems.
                                                                              Weakness on one side of the body.
                                                                              Difficulty finding words, confusion.
                                                                              Blurred vision loss of sight.
                                                                              Sudden severe headaches, dizziness or unsteadiness.

For the survivors of a stroke, they will need to address the many life changing differences after the event. Although the effects differ for each individual, depending on the severity of the event, the post-stroke changes will provide differing levels of difficulty and challenges which will stay with individuals for the rest of their lives. There are some external differences which are apparent to everybody, the most common being, an inability through to reduced movement in one side of the body. Whilst there is no doubts that this change provides extreme challenges for the individual this would seem to be the only the tip of the iceberg of transformation. Far from obvious to an outsider are the levels of tiredness and fatigue, of the pain and headaches, and of the changes to the individual’s emotional state ). These can come in the forms of anxiety, frustration, anger, depression and the difficulty in being able to control the feelings, often termed as “emotional liability” . This paper seeks to provide evidence of one man’s journey in rehabilitation, where small changes become major victories and the client determinedly seeks to unlock further physical movements into the future. For the main it is written in first person as I reflect on the journey, of both therapist and client. It is my aim to open debate to reveal best practice within the hypnotherapy community and publish shared experience into the future.

It’s important that I say that this article was written after a request from my client – he is passionate about recovery and wanted to assist generation of dialogue and engagement on this subject – my thanks to him for his continued courage and vision.

New beginnings.

I first met my client when he was seeking to build a relationship with a new hypnotherapist, someone who wanted to assist him in the difficult journey of change. The goal for our future sessions would be to attempt to regain movements in the left-hand. Incidentally, the client had been paralysed on his left hand side. My client, at the time had been able to exhibit small movements in the fingers, similar to an idemotor response and rather than giving up, remembering everybody that time had told him not to expect any movement to return, he was simply determined and knew deep inside of himself that movement could return. This was evidenced by his having been told that it was unlikely that he would have ever walked again, but, with determination and belief he was indeed able to re-learn this function. Although I had never worked with anyone having survived a stroke before, I was determined, as I do for my clients, to do the very best that I could for them. The only issue in this case having done some background research, I discovered that the earlier treatment was started the more chance of rehabilitation being successful . Of course I was concerned because of the number of years post-event, it is reported that “neurological recovery peaks within the first three months”, nevertheless, I would do my very best and was hopeful given the sufficient evidence that neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to build new synapses, and reconfigure the areas of the brain to take over from the damaged regions, could well see improvement happen. Just because 50% of the brain’s working areas were not working and other areas not working as they should, neurons were still being created daily and so synaptic plasticity could be relied upon. Of course the fact that my new client was indeed walking brought proof of this positive plasticity effect.

Could hypnosis really help?

The first concern for me was how exactly how could I help? Having done some research on the internet I discovered a number of ways in which I should begin to explore and, as a result I developed a repetition of words to assist the synaptic plasticity process, words such as remembered, repair, renew, rebuild, recollect, re-strengthen and recall. The methods used while in hypnosis were:

Reliving past events when the client had full function of the hand.
Visualising future occasions with full hand movement.
Using subconscious indirect metaphors to promote repair of the synapses.
Visualisation of numerous exercises to strengthen muscles and to help rebuild synapses.

 

By using the above techniques, and through the client’s attempted movements in hypnosis, and supported by contemporary physiotherapy techniques, there seemed to be a breakthrough at around the session 6 point (7 hours of therapy). Outside of the session the client was able to apply pressure that was to grip his wife’s hand. After 100% nil movement, for approximately six years, there was pressure, and this force was able slowly able to be applied. During the remainder of the sessions the main focus of work was to build upon this grip action. This action was able to be replicated and subsequently strengthened. This recovery profile seem to fit with Gilbert-Diamonds findings that the biggest change occurred between sessions 6 to 8 . From no movement in the left-hand, to slight grip pressure has occurred over a period of approximately four months. During this time the client was using also regularly using self-hypnosis to fully visualise the movements and to enable a deeper hypnotic state.

Another breakthrough?

Following a period of reflection and review of progress, and having renewed our arrangement for another eight sessions I was hopeful that we could get the grip action strengthened, and yet the client had other goals and expectations. Having been told by his physiotherapist that the grip action was the ‘easier’ hand action to achieve it would be relaxation and stretching of the hand that would pose him the greatest difficulty and may not be achieved and in fact the physiotherapist was overall sceptical regarding the hypnotherapy intervention. With his usual determination and courage my client decided that this was a challenge he was willing to take! In these next sessions we discovered that the client’s love of snowboarding could and should be utilised as often as possible. Whenever there was a memory or visualisation it was always the adventure of the Alpine mountains which the subconscious mind would willingly bring to the fore. Coupled with the use of the earlier techniques, past memories of snowboarding, indirect metaphor to allow the rebuilding and renewing of the synaptic highways another breakthrough was seen to have occurred, at around session 4 (total session 12). Relaxation and stretching movements have begun to be witnessed and although mainly associated with the left-hand ring finger and little finger there is also, currently, tiny movement of the remainder of the fingers. These movements were recorded, at the request of the client, so that the physiotherapist could review progress. From the original physiotherapy stance of prior disbelieving, the therapist is now fully supportive and the client continues to make small progress with each session. In addition, the client now uses an electronic device to generate electrical impulses into the muscles in order to strengthen them further to build upon the extensor movement generated by overcoming the stronger flexor muscles that the client can’t explicitly relax – this in turn aids the neuroplasticity process.

Current Thinking

Hypnotherapy has been used as a method to support a survivor of stroke in his journey to regain some movements in his left hand, which previously had not been seen in six years. Through the belief of both therapist and client in the process of neuro synaptic plasticity, the client has developed a sense of grip, identification and relaxation including extension of the hand. This has been enabled through determination, belief and identification of the client’s most vivid and enjoyable memories and future pacing of movements, something which Gibert-Diamond (2006) has also showed to have brought successful outcomes. As an observation, the client’s grip action has now become expected in session, and as a therapist and client we forget that it was only until recently that this movement had been regained. In terms of benefit, it is my belief that through the use of hypnosis, the client has seen an increase in motion, in strength and has greater motivation for future beneficial change. Gilbert-Diamond’s hypothesis was that “a hypnotic procedure may counteract learned non-use of the paretic limb after stroke” in terms of empirical evidence, I would state that I fully support his hypothesis.

There is no doubt that it has been the hard work of the client which has seen the small movements return. No single procedure, profession or act has enabled the change but more so all the support techniques and activities working towards a common goal has helped a survivor to conquer some of the challenges which he faces daily.

I hope to continue to work with my client and other survivors into the future, those who could well benefit from hypnosis to aid the rehabilitation following a stroke. Neuroplasticity in action is an amazing phenomena which can be emotional for everyone concerned. I welcome debate and the opening of dialogue into best practice in hypnosis for stroke rehabilitation techniques.

References:

Gilbert-Diamond S. (2006). Hypnosis for rehabilitation after stroke: Six case studies. Contemporary Hypnosis.

Salter K, et al. (2006). Effect of early time to rehabilitation on functional outcome in stroke. Journal of Rehabilitation Medicine. 

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Is Simply Just Déjà Vu

Today I am going to be talking about something that we all let happen and it just passes us by. We know it – but we don’t know it.

Stuck in a rut?

We do get stuck in a rut don’t we, firmly in the groove so to speak. I mean, we go to work… work hard pay our bills and mortgage… buy ‘stuff’ that we think we need and go on holidays that we seem to need more and more each year, which in itself is a cause of stress of course. The whole year is one never ending, big commercial and stressful circle, from Christmas to Christmas. So what, you may be asking? Please believe me that this isn’t a rant, I do get to make a point.

There simply has to be another way doesn’t there? You see, I know that I am lucky to be in the position I am, as a hypnotherapist I really do love my job. I get to help others daily and this just can’t be bettered. I am able to take time with in my day to simply observe life. Regularly I see things around me that people who are in their own moment don’t. This deep rut isn’t limited to simply your daily routines of course – get up, work, come home watch TV. It is everywhere in life. Let’s take Social Media such as Facebook or LinkedIN. Merely, it is the same things day in day out: 10 ways to better your blog; you wouldn’t believe what happened next; paste this to show you care; leadership theories state that; are you doing this well; eat less… stop this or that… blah blah blah. Am I the only one who is thoroughly and absolutely bored with the same lack of variety here. Humans are amazing, unique, and hugely creative so why is it the same same same same? I have practically stopped reviewing the internet. Now, I concentrate on just being me and the important things in life. I ask you these questions:

If this was your last day… would you be happy looking back with what you have been doing? Did you do everything you wanted to do in life? Did you spend time with those that meant the most? Are you with the person you want to be? Did you fulfill your potential? Did you wish your life away? How much time did you ever have for you? Why did you care about what people thought? What are you going to do now? What will you change today? How will tomorrow go?

Where’s the revolution? Come on people you’re letting me down .

There is so much opportunity in the world, so much potential. Don’t get stuck in that rut – allow yourself to change, grasp the chance of true happiness. Get rid of discontent, anxiety, frustration, anger and negative emotion – they have no place in anyone’s actuality. Make a plan. Do something awesome. Never limit yourself. I truly do believe in everyone’s ability to experience step and gradual change. Why shouldn’t utopia be one’s reality, or at least our version of or at least strive toward it?

I would like to close with one last point. There is so much we don’t understand in this world. Questions to be answered, I suppose I could term it as awareness or enlightenment, simply awakened. Maybe as I move closer, my paradigms, vibe and outlook has changed – as I move away from the constant cycle that people get stuck in, the more I see how imprisoning it is and the more difficult it becomes to break free. If you feel imprisoned, from whatever presenting issue it may be, give me a ring to talk about your dream of freedom – it is closer than you think you know.

Enjoy the weekend and do something different – even just for a minute. Live.

Best wishes,

 

“This Is Your Brain On Empathy”

Creating a meaningful and purposeful life is an essential ingredient of human wellbeing.

But how do you discover who you are and why you’re here?

Pick up any self-help book written in the past 50 years and you’ll be told that the best way to learn about yourself is to spend time on introspection or in quiet contemplation. By indulging in a little naval gazing, and examining your innermost desires, hopes and aspirations, you’ll discover meaning and direction in life.

The key to ‘outrospection’ is empathy.
How you interact with others is greatly influenced by your ability to understand other people’s mental lives — their feelings, desires, thoughts and intentions. Cultivating your ability to empathise with others has the power to transform your life and revolutionise human relationships.

We define empathy as the art of stepping imaginatively into the shoes of another person, understanding their feelings and perspectives, and using that understanding to guide your actions.

The neural basis of empathy.
Neuroscientists and psychologists who study the neural basis of human empathy describe two types of empathy: cognitive empathy (understanding another’s perspective) and emotional empathy (understanding another’s feelings). Researchers are busy mapping the complex neural networks involved these two distinct but related empathy traits.  (Visit: http://www.natutralhealing-clinic.com)

Can learn to empathize, or is it hard-wired?
Researchers have also shown that empathy isn’t a hard-wired mental attribute that you either possess or not, but one that can be cultivated or learned over time.

In one study doctors were enrolled in empathy-training classes in which they focused on improving their listening skills, learned to decode facial expressions and body language, and learned about the importance of understanding patients’ life stories. Afterwards the doctors’ empathy significantly increased (and strikingly, this improvement was rated by their patients).

Children can also learn empathy.
In the Roots of Empathy program a class ‘adopts’ a baby for a year, and the baby and parent visit the classroom every three weeks. During the visits the students are encouraged to observe the baby’s development and to label the baby’s feelings. For example, the baby may start crying and the facilitator will ask the children why they think the baby is crying. Numerous evaluations of the program have shown it reduces playground bullying, improves pupils’ relationships with their parents, improves academic performance, and increases both cognitive and emotional empathy.

How to train your brain for empathy
These studies show that empathy can be thought of as skill we can practice and improve. Here are six daily (or weekly) ideas that we suggest for cultivating empathy.

Switch on your empathic brain. Recognise that empathy is at the core of human nature. Empathy isn’t just something you are born with. Most people can expand their capacity for empathy — both cognitive and emotional empathy — by practising mindful attention towards other people’s feelings and experiences. (Visit: http://www.natutralhealing-clinic.com)

Make the imaginative leap. Make a conscious effort to step into another person’s shoes. Acknowledge their humanity, their individuality and perspectives. Try this for both your friends and your ‘enemies’.

Seek experiential adventures. Explore lives and cultures that contrast with your own.

“Next time you are planning a holiday, don’t ask yourself, ‘Where can I go next?’ but instead ‘Whose shoes can I stand in next?’” .

Practice the craft of conversation. Engage others in conversation and practice radical listening — simply focus intently on listening to their feelings and needs without interrupting.

“Take off your own emotional mask, and risk showing your vulnerability. Ultimately, most of us just want to be listened to and understood” .

Travel in your armchair. Transport yourself into the minds of others with the help of art, literature, film and online social networks.

Get curious about strangers. At least once a week have a conversation with a stranger. Make sure you get beyond everyday chatter about the weather and talk about the stuff that really matters in life—love, death, politics, religion.

“You might strike up a discussion with one of the cleaners at the office, or the woman who sells you bread each morning.

It’s surprising how fascinating, energising and enlightening it can be to talk to someone different from yourself.”

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What Do I Do If I Have Allergies?

Allergies are a major problem in the modern world. Interestingly they are less recorded in history and primitive cultures so either they were not considered serious medical problems or the modern environment has spawned more allergies in more people. Statistically in medicine we think it is the latter because younger people are now experiencing more allergies than their parents or grandparents.

By the time we are born we have been exposed to thousands of chemicals that would be unnatural to us if we lived in the wild.

Children in cities no longer play outside in the dirt on a regular basis so their immune systems do not develop the robustness of previous generations.

In the home too we have so many unnecessary chemical-based disinfectants and cleaners that make our environment too sterile so the immune system does not rise to the challenge of fighting infection. At times it becomes over-active in reacting to substances that would not normally cause an immune response.

So what is an allergy?

An allergy is an inappropriate immune response to a substance. That substance can with be organic or inorganic. The response may be to a single substance, a range of similar substances or in some cases people develop multiple allergies to many substances.

Some of the biggest reactions today are to medication that frequently result in people being admitted to hospital. This is why more people are turning to natural remedies. Reactions of course are highly individual and no two people are exactly the same, even twins.

What are the common symptoms of allergies?

• Skin rashes or hives

• Watering eyes

• Runny nose

• Shortness of breath

• Closing of the throat (anaphylaxis)

• Stomach ache

• Diarrhoea

• Numbness

• Sweating or shivering

• Dizziness or fainting

• Alteration of vision or hearing

• Fainting or drowsiness

• Headaches or hyper-alertness

• Strange behaviour or psychosis

You may know what triggers your allergies or you may have allergic reactions and not know what you are allergic to, which can prove very frustrating.

Allergies can also start at any time of your life and sometimes to something that you may have not been allergic to before, for reasons not known.

It is very important to start tracking down what you are allergic to.

This can only be done by careful eliminating things from your life and seeing what happens while recording the results. It is import to be scientific about this process so you can unravel the puzzle, whether it be food, chemicals, dust, smells or even certain kinds of animals.

There are various kinds of allergy tests which can be useful but you may test positive to a substance in the test and it simply does not bother you and you get no reaction.

The only true way to manage an allergy is to know the allergens.

It is important to see a health professional who can help you and not just struggle on your own.

So what can you do if you have an allergy?

• Sooth skin rashes or hives with Aloe Vera

• Work on identifying the allergens in conjunction with a health professional, such as a naturopath

• Do the very best you can to eliminate those allergens from your diet and life

• If you experience anaphylaxis you should carry an epipen (adrenaline) with you at all times

• If you experience an anaphylactic episode, get urgent medical help

• Wear an allergy bracelet if you are anaphylactic

• Be clear with other people about what you are allergic to: just tell them

• Under a healthcare professional, you may try a desensitisation program

• Herbs and medications can reduce allergic reactions

• Avoid stress as it promotes allergies

Take the Chill Out of Winter

Bring out the cosy duvet and fuzzy bed socks: winter is here. As the sun sets earlier and the temperatures drop, many of us soothe ourselves with unhealthy comfort foods and hibernate. But we aren’t bears that check out until spring: we humans need to keep our bodies moving and nourished daily. There are simple things we can do to keep moving and get the right nutrients to boost immunity and moods this season.

When our body temperatures drop, eating and drinking habits change. There’s a biological reason for this: we will eat more to boost our body temperature and produce inner heat. You may find when you exercise outdoors in winter and shiver, you race to find warm food. We burn up to 400 calories by shivering. So we naturally want to eat more in winter, but our food choices make the difference between extra kilos and fitting into summer swimwear. The opposite of this is our sense of thirst decreases in winter because we aren’t sweating as regularly, so we tend to drink less and become dehydrated. We may feel more fatigued and experience mind fog from loss of fluids.

Moods in winter may be affected by seasonal affective disorder, a type of seasonal mood, in which less sunshine contributes to low moods and lethargy. We may not be getting enough of the hormone vitamin D which comes mainly from the sun. Optimal vitamin D levels are important for functions including moods, immunity, hormone production, strong bones and muscle recovery. Early nights mean less time spent outdoors in the sunshine in winter, which may leave us feeling down, so we tend to boost moods with alcohol, caffeine and junk foods. While these provide momentary ‘pick me ups’, they do not provide sustained energy and mood support.

Given our bodies crave more calories in darker months, healthy winter foods could include:
Hearty soups and stews, made with a variety of vegetables. By filling up on a variety of vegetables, we feel fuller for longer. Try turkey, beef or vegetarian chili for a satisfying dish.
Vitamin C-rich citrus fruits for extra immune-boosting benefits. Grapefruit and mandarins are great winter choices, which can be juiced or added to smoothies, or even squeezed into hot mugs of water and sipped for an invigorating start to the day.
Healthy fats, such as olive or avocado oil drizzled on vegetables, or white fish or salmon steamed and topped with butter and herbs with steamed veggies on the side. Nuts, boiled eggs and seeds are healthy snacks for in between meals. Omega 3 from oil, fish and nuts help supports our brains, hearts and may even help deter winter dry skin and eczema.
Root vegetables like kumara, celeriac, garlic, onion, parsnips, beets, carrots and baby potatoes. These ground-based veggies are full of fibre, antioxidants, vitamin C, B and A for immune system support.

Because we have less thirst, winter drinks could include:
Fresh slices of ginger or lemon in hot water with a teaspoon of manuka honey for vitamin C and antibacterial properties, and a pinch of cayenne pepper for metabolism boost. Ginger is also wonderful for our circulation.
Hot turmeric milk – with almond and coconut milk, a dash of turmeric, and a pinch of cinnamon, ginger and nutmeg – is a body warming drink with antioxidant properties. In colder months, joints and arthritis may feel stiffer, but turmeric and ginger have anti-inflammatory properties and may help make joints more mobile.
Dried rosehip and hibiscus tea contains flavonoids, antioxidants and high levels of vitamin C, making this an excellent choice for immunity support.

Winter nutritional supplements recommended:

Vitamin D, 5000 IUD daily is my recommendation for the winter months, due to the lack of skin exposure to sun. This is important for everyone, but particularly critical for darker skin as there is a tendency to absorb less vitamin D naturally from the sun with more melanin pigment in the skin.
If not consuming fatty fish at least twice weekly, 2000mg of pure omega 3 fish oil is recommended for its potential boost to brain, heart and skin health in winter. Topical application of plant or mineral-based skincare helps to restore moisture due to the impact of dry air from heaters.
Zinc, vitamin C, astralagus and echinacea can all be helpful immune supporting nutrients.

Winter exercise tips include:

If getting outside, layers of clothing to keep body heat in and remove as you warm up. Amazingly our bodies can heat up to tropical level by wearing the right clothing during aerobic exercise even in the coldest weather.
Interval training is a good option to help contribute to weight loss and boosting testosterone for men. This means jogging at a good pace to get the heart moving for 1 minute, then walking at a moderate pace for 3 minutes. Repeat three times. Incorporate a 10-minute warm up and cool down of gentle walking to this 30-minute total programme. Try this 3 non-consecutive times weekly.
If you prefer to be active inside, buy a yoga mat and search on YouTube for free workouts, or seek out a good set of weights you can store in the back bedroom or garage and do a 30-minute resistance set. Music motivated? Turn up some of your favourite beats and boogie for a good 20-30 minutes straight to burn some serious calories or find your local Zumba class for a more social time.
For best results, aim for 4-5 times weekly exercise of 30 minutes’ duration.
Don’t forget if you are about to do aerobic exercise, drink two glasses of water prior to activity and one glass just after to keep hydration in check.

Combine the above tips with 8 hours of sleep nightly, warm baths to support circulation, hot stone massages and saunas, daily pet cuddles, and regular 15-minute mindfulness/meditation practice, and you are on your way to resisting hibernation and choosing the most proactive, healthy winter yet. Keep warm and enjoy!

 

Work Place Stress The Symptoms

According to the Health and Safety Executive, some 440,000 people reported work related stress last year which counted for almost 9.9 million days lost due to the condition. That’s a lot of days. Did you know:

“All employers have a legal responsibility under the HSaW act 1974 to ensure the health and safety of their employees, and this includes minimizing stress-related illnesses.”

Now, it is all well and good understanding that, but how do you begin to ensure that this is the case? I mean, it isn’t as if stress can be seen – or can it? Do you have any of the following symptoms?

feeling that you can’t cope
being unable to concentrate
lacking confidence
a loss of motivation and commitment
feeling disappointed with yourself
indecisiveness
You might also have emotional symptoms, such as:

negative or depressive feelings
increased emotional reactions (for example, you’re more tearful or sensitive)
irritability or having a short temper
feeling overwhelmed
mood swings
You may also get physical symptoms, including:

diarrhoea or constipation
aches and pains
indigestion and nausea
headaches
weight changes
chest pains or tightness in your chest
Your behaviour might also change and may include:

eating more or less than usual
sleeping too much or too little
isolating yourself from others
drinking alcohol, smoking or taking illegal drugs to relax

How would you know if the symptoms were due to work or other ‘stuff’ going on in your life? Well, do you take work home? Never able to get things finished? Miss appointments? Work longer hours or miss holiday entitlement? If you are answering yes, then you are most likely suffering from work induced stress.

Working with hypnosis – I can assist you to achieve a deep relaxation, a de-stress – and a re-charge. We will explore the options to reduce this overwhelming feeling and build the strength back. You are not alone – there are many people who just need a little support to feel more in control once again.

Hypnotherapy can help and is an easy, enjoyable and very relaxing way to beat stress.

Ring me to find out more.
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Three tips for healthy digestion

You are what you eat’ is a well-known adage, but perhaps a more accurate phrase is, ‘you are what you digest and absorb’. Optimal digestion is undoubtedly the foundation of health. Here are three signs your digestive system needs support and strategies that can help.

You have no appetite:

If you wake with no morning appetite or the thought of food in the morning leaves you nauseous, then chances are your liver could do with assistance. Traditional medicine has considered a poor appetite in the morning as a sign that cleansing is required. The liver is at its busiest whilst we sleep, packaging up metabolised, redundant or harmful substances for excretion. When this process works seamlessly, you wake with a healthy morning appetite and abundant digestive juices, ready to ‘break the fast’. However, when impeded due to too many liver loaders (alcohol, processed foods and sugar) or a lack of nutrients that facilitate detoxification, a sluggish digestive system can result.

The strategy: Bitter plants
Bitter plants may help those with lack of appetite. Bitter flavours stimulate digestive chemicals and liver function, and for this reason we suggest taking them before meals, especially first thing before breakfast. As well as helping to restore appetite, the daily cleansing helps support your body to function as best as it can. Our favourite bitter plants are globe artichoke (cynara scolymus), dandelion root (taraxacum officinale) and St Mary’s thistle (silybum marianum).

Frequent bloating and gas
One of the most uncomfortable digestive symptom – frequent bloating – is caused by improper digestion of food. A lasting solution must address the root cause – this may be lack of digestive enzymes or a taxed liver, poor food choices, stress, or an incorrect balance of gut bacteria.

The strategy: carminative plants

Medicinal plants are a wonderful ally for anyone with bloating. They bring symptomatic relief whilst also improving the overall function of digestive organs. In many countries there is a long-standing tradition of consuming carminative plants as a medicinal tea following meals to promote the proper breakdown of food and relieve the discomfort of bloating and gas. ‘Carminative’ means to expel gas from the stomach or intestines, thus relieving flatulence, abdominal pain or distension. Rich in essential oils, the main action of these plants is to soothe and settle the gut, reducing inflammation and coordinating gut contractions. A good quality carminative plant will have an almost immediate soothing effect on an unhappy gut. Our favourites are peppermint (mentha piperita), fennel seed (foeniculum vulgare) and aniseed (pimpinella anisum).

You’re tired all the time
This is a surprising one, but second only to sleep problems, poor digestion is one of the most frequent reasons for sub-optimal energy. If underlying health problems have been ruled out and you sleep deeply but are still tired, then the next step is to look at the quality of your digestion.

The strategy: a comprehensive approach

Start by introducing bitter plants before meals (St Mary’s thistle, globe artichoke, dandelion). By stimulating digestive juices, nutrients from food can be more effectively absorbed by the body and utilized for the production of energy.

Next address how and what you eat. Eat slowly, mindfully and not too much. Avoid drinking large amounts of fluid, coffee or alcohol with your meals, since all of these will affect absorption. Focus on real, whole foods, omitting processed alternatives that are lacking in nutrients.

Usually one or a combination of these strategies will be enough to improve energy if you have sub-optimal digestion.

 

 

 

Changing the world together

Hello,I have been watching today the announcement by Mark Zuckerberg that along with his wife, the Chan-Zuckerberg Initiative, that they are going to be pledging $3B to fighting diseases for our children – I think that this is an important announcement which is going to drive success and something I was excited to hear about. Anything to fight the cruelty of disease is a good thing. Then I asked myself, but what about helping people and children now. Those who don’t have enough food or shelter – those who are living day to day fighting for their family and children’s survival. The homeless on our streets needing help, a cause I support and back.

There is a lot of trouble and violence around the world today – The Middle East – Africa – The Far East – all ready to put the survival of the human race to test.

Now, I am realistic. I am unable to change the world – I have a utopian view that perhaps we should be fighting for health and happiness, love and peace all around the world and feel saddened by the way that politics doesn’t seem to do politics effectively maybe there are those of course who have a differing agenda, those who lack conscience and morals, ethically bankrupt. Again, I can do nothing about them.

So what can I do? I can help my bit of the world. Those that seek my support and help, in whatever they choose – be it a personal issue that’s really limiting their enjoyment of life, or indeed a professional issue that they wish to explore how to overcome. I am always happy to assist and will continue to do so – doing a job I love and helping change people for the better.

If you would like to see how I have helped people change through hypnotherapy and coaching in Vancouver B.C., Canada – see the testimonials on my web site or on google.

Thanks for reading this – let’s help change the world to make it a better place – and the last word goes to Mark Zuckerberg – “together we have an opportunity to leave the world better than we found it.”

Skin Conditions In Children’s

Here in our Hypnotherapy clinic in Vancouver I often see many children, particularly teenagers, expeskin-diseaseriencing skin conditions such as eczema and psoriasis. These young people may have been put on a variety of medications by their doctors that often have only limited effects and can cause additional side-effects or even exacerbate the condition.

There are many causes of skin conditions including genetic polymorphism, infected intestines with bad bacteria or viruses, poor diet, allergies, nervousness or the result of poisoning or medications.

Doctors and even specialists can often prescribe an array of medications because they simply do not know what else to do or their training has only been centered around prescribing drugs. The parent, desperate for a solution, may follow blindly, trying regimes for years that yield no or little results. Meanwhile, the child may go from bad to worse.

Children develop their own immune system around 18 months old at the time when most weaning stops and they move onto solid foods. As children grow, it is important they get a wide range of nutrients to build their healthy body.

The wrong foods, such as high saturated fats and sugars can cause cardio vascular disease 60 years later and in the meantime they slow the liver down from expelling sufficient toxins from the body.

The liver, with the gut, is the seat of all health in naturopathic medicine and if it is not functioning at high capacity, the body begins to push toxins out through the skin.

Many children may be sensitive to particular food groups, species or genus. In healthy children, those foods may be tolerated, but in children with an unbalanced gut, there may be a disturbance in the wall of the gut. This allows toxins and allergens to leak directly into the blood system, which then move to the rest of the body, causing an allergic reaction on the skin.

For some children, this is present from birth but for others it may emerge later in childhood. As a hypnotherapist, I take a great deal of information from the family to screen for the causes of inflammation, irritation and allergic reactions in the child. While children are generally hardy creatures, we all encounter foods that may not be right for us.

Emotionally disturbed, nervous or stressed children may experience damage to their guts due to tension that puts them into the fight or flight response when proper digestion and the correct immune responses are suspended.

Not only must the children be treated physically, they also need help to redress their emotional wellbeing. As a clinical hypnotherapist, I find children marvellous hypnotic subjects who respond very well to hypnotherapy to help reduce their stress or anxiety and therefore restore good gut health.

What you can do for your child who has a skin condition:

• See a naturopath who works with children and skin conditions
• Be prepared to do a great deal of monitoring of your child in order to analyse what is happening to them so the cause of the skin condition can be worked out
• See a hypnotherapist, Make the experience a happy one for your child and remain calm,
• When you are asked to follow a treatment plan, follow it to the letter without exception
• Do everything you possibly can to support your child and the changes they will need to make
• Enlist the help of your family, friends and the school in helping your child stay with the treatment plan

Help For Tinnitus-

From a medical perspective tinnitus is classified as a condition, not a disease. In other words it is not contagious, even though there is a suggestion that there may be familial patterns of occurrence in some families. You may experience uncontrolled and unwanted sounds such as ringing, hissing, clicking, rushing, roaring, pulsating or tapping.

Tinnitus is, however, more than one condition because the causes, signs and symptom may occur differently for each individual. Although we list different kinds of tinnitus, every patients’ experience is unique, so from a naturopathic perspective they must be helped as individuals as there is no one singular, overall treatment.

There are three main causes and theories of tinnitus:

• Persistent unwanted sounds due to trauma and damage to the ears

• Loss of and damage to hearing due to salicylate sensitivity and reactivity

• Misperception of phantom hearing noises in the brain mainly due to hearing loss

<strong>Trauma and damage to the ears</strong>

Traumas to the hearing system, loss of hearing, tinnitus and the exacerbation of tinnitus occurs due to exposure to extremely loud noises, persistent exposure to loud noises, heat damage to the ears due to very high temperatures or chronic infection, stroke, chronic sinusitis, lymphedema, congenital birth defect, head trauma, continual exposure to air presume changes such as those encountered during airplane flights, compression and damage to the nerves, poisoning, malnutrition, and dysfunction of hearing-related processing centers in the brain.

<strong>Salicylate sensitivity and reactivity</strong>

The second theory of tinnitus is that some people are highly sensitives to salicylates found in food and when they have not consumed those foods their tinnitus reduces considerably. Salicylates can cause deafness which is why people with tinnitus should avoid aspirin, along with other drugs, foods and herbs containing high salicylates.

The list of plant-based foods containing salicylates generally comes in different levels: <em>no, low, medium and high</em> salicylates. Compose your diet from the <em>no and low</em> salicylate list with just occasionally something from the medium range but never from the high range.

These foods would include banana, pears (peeled), bamboo shoots, cabbage, celery, lentils, lettuce, poppy seeds, hemp seeds (if legal in your state), carob, pawpaw, papaya, cashews, hazelnuts, pecan nuts, sunflower seeds, vanilla, lime, swede, leek, mung bean sprouts, red cabbage, shallots, figs, lemon, mango, passion fruit, persimmon, red delicious apple (peeled), rhubarb, soy oil, sunflower oils, rice and soy milk, dandelion tea, millet, buckwheat, oats, barley, rye, brussels sprouts.

When formulating the way you eat, it is important to include all the colours so you get all the vitamins and minerals you need, such as red cabbage for anthocyanidins that unblock vessels; shoots, sprouts, nuts and seeds which are rich in amino acids; swede for carotenoids which are antioxidants and precursors to vitamin A; greens such as brussel sprouts which are superfoods containing vitamin C, K E, some B’s, folic acid and B6.

Avoid processed, frozen and packet foods and try to buy organic as the nutritional content is far higher. You may also need to supplement with iron, B12, vitamin D and magnesium depending on your blood tests. Refrain from caffeine, alcohol and smoking as all of these will increase the effects of tinnitus directly or indirectly.

In putting your diet together, you must do the research on what foods come under the low and no salicylate list. Then you need to use the test and measure principle. Write down everything you eat and drink. Every day record your level of tinnitus with 1 being mild and 10 being high. Do not stray from your diet and over a long period you will find what foods are working for you and which ones are not.

<strong>Phantom sound theory</strong>

The third theory of tinnitus is the phantom sound theory. It posits that part of the brain fills in what it thinks are missing sounds in reaction to the loss of incoming sound due to deafness. This theory cannot, however, explain why deaf people may suddenly experience tinnitus. Researchers have found that people do not experience tinnitus during dreaming or when moving in and out of sleep.

<strong>Treating tinnitus from a naturopathic perspective</strong>

It is import to closely monitor diet for someone suffering tinnitus to eliminate high salicylate rich foods which irritated the condition and makes it worse in many cases. The diet must be anti-inflammatory and high in nutrients. Unfortunately, nearly all doctors and most dietitian do not have the knowledge and time to put such diet together for patients because it needs to be individualized for each patient due to possible other allergies that may be present.

It is also important to run several tests with patients to screen for malnutrition and toxic overload which may be making the problem worse. If you are spending anything of up to $15,000 for hearing aid it will be no good to you if you are not dealing with bodily dysfunction that may have caused or are making the tinnitus worse.

Naturopaths take ask you a hundred and one questions and more. We are information collectors that helps us find out what is happening with your body. You can cope with tinnitus far better and even in some cases eliminate it when you work with profession to find out what is irritating the tinnitus and what makes it better.

<strong>Hypnotherapy to treat tinnitus</strong>

<strong>Hypnotherapy</strong> has the ability to help you change and re-contextualise all your sensory experiences fast because those experiences take place in the brain, not in your ears. This includes actual sound and perceived sound. What is also important to be aware of is that stress increases tinnitus and its discomfort and the ability to relax reduces the tinnitus.

In an integrative model of treatment, clinical hypnosis can also reduce stress, anxiety and depression to such an extent that the tinnitus disturbs you less and at times not at all.

The most important thing to remember is: Do not play amateur clinician. Work with a plant-based medical nutritionist and seek a professional <a href=”http://www.naturalhealing-clinic.com/”>hypnotherapist</a> who works with tinnitus ( <a href=”http://naturalhealing-clinic.com/” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>The Natural Healing is located in Vancouver B.C, and Lazzaro Pisu is one of the best Hypnotherapist in Canada </a>).

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Healing From Sexual Abuse

Healing the effects of sexual abuse:

Have you or someone you know been affected by sexual abuse? Do you know that hypnotherapy is highly effective at healing the effects of sexual abuse and returning the Self to wholeness? In my hypnotherapy practice over the years I have seen many clients who have suffered sexual abuse in one form or another, either as a small child or an adult. Predominantly of course, most of those clients have been female, but males are also often affected. Whether male or female, young or old, the effects of sexual abuse are often crippling, particularly if the abuser is a parent or a family member. No matter how young they are, children inherently understand that their parents and family members are there to protect them, not abuse them. The obvious fallout from such experiences manifests itself as sexual problems in later life, huge issues over trust, and hyper vigilance (anxiousness, on the constant lookout for threats). Because the person is victimized and normally too frightened to react, or too small to fight back, (or even told that such events are “normal but secret”), they will often take up the identity or archetype of the victim. This can often lead them on to other victim-identified lifestyle choices such as alcohol or drug dependency or poor choices when it comes to choosing suitable life partners resulting in continued abuse. This of course, is all bad enough.

However what surprised me the most when I started to work with sexual abuse clients is that they themselves carried the energies of guilt and shame, along with feelings of dirtiness and of not being deserving of all the good things in life. I wondered why this was the case, as these clients had not done anything wrong themselves and had nothing to feel guilty about at all. Initially I saw that a huge distortion had taken place within the remembrance of the event.

 

One lady in her mid forties told me that she felt so ashamed of herself, and had always carried feelings of stupidity and weakness because she felt that she should have been able to a) stop the abuse from happening by physically pushing her abuser off her, and b) get out of the room the abuse took place in. We talked about the event itself and my client told me not only was her abuser old, tall and grossly overweight, but that she was locked into the room and she was only four years old! My client had a daughter aged five. I asked her if she thought her daughter could wrestle an abuser off her and escape from a locked room. She replied, “Of course she couldn’t!” I asked why then, she believed that she should have been able to do this. She looked at me blankly and just said, “I’ve never thought about it like that. I have always felt bad that I couldn’t do anything about it.” So this was food for thought for my client. Sadly, I have heard the same story many times over. Guilt also results from any pleasure which may have occurred during the event. But as I point out to my clients, our sexual organs are made to respond to stimuli, rather like a light switch being turned on and off, they do not determine the source of the stimuli and decide whether to work or not. It is entirely natural for these organs to feel pleasure; so again, there is no need to feel guilty.

But as I worked with more and more clients, I saw that the shame, guilt and self hatred were deeply ingrained and that they were huge barriers to healing and occurred no matter how much understanding the client had. And then during a hypnotherapy session with a client one day I came to understand why such emotions are so prevalent to those who had experienced sexual abuse. I discovered that in most cases, during the sexual act, the abuser energetically “dumps” their guilt and shame onto their victim, so they do not have to feel or deal with those distasteful emotions. So the shame and guilt the clients were feeling were not actually their own shame or guilt! But because that energy was residing within their own energy field, they interpreted it as their own, and take ownership of it. Once I started to educate the clients that this energy did not belong to them at all, they were very keen to rid themselves of it, and they made great progress as soon as it was removed from their energy fields.

Sexual abuse affects a person on all levels of their being. The conscious, subconscious,

unconscious, energetic, emotional, mental and physical levels are all affected. In addition, the soul or spirit is also affected. Soul loss usually occurs as a protection mechanism while the event is occurring. Afterwards the abused will be “less than” – reduced and numbed in some way. This actually occurs to help the person cope with what has happened to them, or what sadly continues to happen to them. But of course, in order for true healing to take place, once the emotional, mental, energetic and physical aspects have been healed, soul retrieval is necessary to return to the Self back to wholeness. This is why hypnotherapy is highly effective at healing the effects of sexual abuse as it provides healing on all levels of a persons being and restores them to wholeness with soul retrieval techniques. I have seen hundreds of clients not only move forward with their lives but also create lives they love, forgiven and forgetting their abusers and living the lives that they always dreamt of living. If you have experienced sexual abuse, please know you are not alone, that you have nothing to feel guilty about and that the effects can be fully healed so that you can move forward. I know that you may not have told anyone about what happened to you before, but it is really is nothing to feel ashamed of and the most important thing is that you receive the healing that you need. I would be happy and honored to assist you on your healing journey if you would like to contact me.

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Your Session,How Does it Work?

Hypnosis is a talking therapy. It uses words to help the client to change their behaviour. Our first session will start with the taking of a detailed client record to understand the client and their problem. Sessions may vary in length between one hour and 1 1/2 hours. Smoking is normally dealt with in two sessions. Other problems might be dealt with in a single session but more commonly take several, depending on their complexity. However, a  consultant  hypnotist expect to help their clients (assuming that it is a problem which can be helped with hypnosis) in relatively few sessions compared, say, to traditional psychotherapy where it may be usual to have weekly sessions for a long period of time. A hypnotist will normally expect to see some beneficial change in the client after three sessions.

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER TAKING THE CLIENT RECORD?

If you have not been in hypnosis before, the consultant hypnotist will want to explain hypnosis to you, and answer any questions you may have, to ensure that you are entirely comfortable about the process. Sometimes people who have seen stage hypnosis shows do not realise how pleasurable, in fact how ordinary, a hypnotic trance can be. Everybody is different, but most people feel a pleasant heaviness in their arms and legs; a feeling that while they could move them they would rather not bother. Your eyes will be closed and there may be a similar feeling in the eyelids. You can hear everything that is going on around you and, in particular, the voice of the therapist, but other sounds will start to seem less relevant, your mind may drift a little and you may not be sure whether you have heard everything that has been said. It is your conscious mind that is having this doubt; your unconscious mind will have absorbed it all.

NOW THAT YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH HYPNOSIS, WHAT NEXT?

There are a number of hypnotic trance phenomena but the most relevant one for the client to understand is the posthypnotic suggestion. This is a suggestion made to the client while in trance but which will continue to affect the client and influence his or her behaviour when out of trance. At a first session, hypnosis may be used to start giving suggestions for change, or it may just be used for relaxation and to prepare the client’s subconscious mind for change at the next session. Either way, the consultant hypnotist is likely to take you into a hypnotic trance during your first session. Most people find that the immediate effect — the feeling that you have while in trance — becomes stronger each time you go into trance

THE HYPNOTIC PROCESS

There are a large number of ways of inducing a hypnotic trance, some fast and some slow, some just using words and some physical actions. Once a person has gone into trance the  consultant hypnotist  will often use a further script to deepen the trance. This may be done with visual imagery, encouraging the client to imagine a garden, a beach or a mountain walk; or it may use an awakening of early memories; or it may be by confusing the conscious mind in some way so that it becomes preoccupied or, alternatively, chooses to go off duty. Whichever way is chosen, the effect is to create a deeper relaxation of both body and mind, giving easier access to the subconscious mind. At this point the hypnotist will start to give suggestions, which may be direct or indirect, knowing that they will be taken on board by the subconscious mind, without interference from the logical, rational, conscious mind.

LATER SESSIONS

The consultant hypnotist may well teach you self-hypnosis. This is a simple technique which you can use to relax in your own home. While relaxing you can reinforce the suggestions you have been given, you can review your goals and give yourself more motivation, or you can simply relax (very helpful for insomnia). Your consultant hypnotist may ask you to do certain tasks between sessions, such as keeping an eating diary if you want to reduce weight, or doing something which you previously had a reluctance to do if you have a phobia. In some cases the consultant hypnotist may give you a CD containing the suggestions which you have already been given in trance. The reason for the repetition, whether in self hypnosis, or listening to a CD, is that the subconscious mind is affected by compounding and will give more weight or importance to a suggestion received many times. The advertising industry knows all about this!

WHAT CAN HYPNOTHERAPY HELP YOU WITH?

Because  hypnosis works by offering ideas for change to the subconscious mind it can be helpful with any behavior or disorders caused by, or affected in some way by, the state of the client’s mind. This turns out to be quite a long list of psychosomatic or psychogenic conditions, some of which are listed below. However, if you have some problem which is not specifically listed, and you wonder whether hypnosis can help you you only have to ask, see Contact. Although hypnosis can be a very effective way to help you, the client, you must remember that it should not be thought of as a magic wand! Neither you nor the consultant hypnotist will know everything that is in your subconscious mind; every client is unique and, while the session will be tailored to you as an individual, the consultant hypnotist  is not omnipotent.

 

CHANGING UNWANTED BEHAVIOR 

Many of us are creatures of habit, and when it is a good habit that can be very helpful by ensuring that we do things which are necessary or beneficial. But when it is a bad habit, or one which we no longer think is good although we may have thought so at one time, then we seem to be a prisoner of our past. Despite all our good intentions to change we find that will power is not enough. Our logical minds know that we should change our behavior but somehow it is just too difficult, and each time we try to change, but fail, this reinforces in us a feeling that we cannot change. Both hypnosis and NLP provide excellent ways of breaking the cycle of failure and so can help you to make the change that you want to make. This is an important point — you must want to make the change — and it is not sufficient for somebody else (e.g. a parent or spouse) to think that you should make the change. If your heart is not in it the change is unlikely to happen. Examples of behavioral change: Smoking cessation Over eating and weight reduction Insomnia Nail-biting Blushing Addictions Alcohol .

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Often if we look at people who are more successful in life we realise that it is not because they are more intelligent, rather it is because they are more confident and better motivated to achieve their objective. In their own mind they have convinced themselves that they can succeed and, as a result, they do succeed. Achieving a more positive attitude of mind is a normal part of any hypnosis session. Of course, the goals that we set ourselves must be reasonable bearing in mind the skills that we have and the effort that we are prepared to put in. Failure to achieve our goals, or a conflict between work pressures, life pressures and the time available, can lead to stress. The more stressed we feel, the worse we perform and a vicious circle develops. Hypnosis, with its emphasis on relaxation, can be a potent force for change when allied with better goal and priority setting, leading to management and reduction of stress. Under the wide heading of personal development we can list:

  • Building self confidence and self-esteem
  • Encouraging relaxation
  • Stress management
  • Emotional difficulties
  • Relationship problems
  • Reduction of anxiety
  • Exam preparation
  • Driving test preparation
  • Assertiveness
  • Life coaching and goal setting
  • Sports or artistic performance enhancement

 

 

Hypnosis Can Help You

Whatever your goal…hypnosis can help.

Hypnosis is recognized by the medical profession as a useful and powerful complimentary therapy… * In 1955 the British Medical Association issued a report stating that hypnosis was a valuable medical tool. * In 1958 the American Medical Association recognized hypnosis as a viable scientific modality. * In 1962 the American Psychiatric Association recognized that hypnosis was a viable modality to treat some psychological problems.

Our subconscious mind is always at work, absorbing and recording all what we see, hear, touch, smell, taste and say every second of every day of our lives>.You know the feeling…there is something in your life that you would like to change or improve upon…but you have not found the right way to do so yet. At least, until now…During hypnosis we access our subconscious mind to resolve our problems quickly and forever. When we experience hypnosis, we do NOT lose control at any time and remember the whole experience, if we so wish.

Hypnosis -Depression

Hypnotherapy is one of the most effective treatments for depression . Depression is a condition which can sneak up on you without you realizing it. You may find that you gradually find less and less enjoyment in doing things that you previously enjoyed. Depression is something we unconsciously “do” rather than “have”. As people, we develop many different behavior which are unconsciously driven to protect ourselves from pains and fears. Or we may find certain emotions unbearable.

As we develop as children, we form both conscious and unconscious beliefs about ourselves and different aspects of the world around us. As adults, we tend to play out “scripts” to prove those beliefs we developed in childhood to be correct.
Hypnosis used to help with depression allows us to access those unconscious beliefs and world-views that were formed in our younger years. For example, if we grow up forming the belief “I’m not good enough”, we will feel incapable of handling the ups and downs of general life. Or we may feel as though nothing goes right for us. We may then, at an unconscious level, go about “proving” that we are not good enough to get that better job, or to be in a loving relationship. If we grow up forming the belief that “people will hurt you if you let them get close”, then we will unconsciously protect ourselves from getting hurt by keeping people at a safe distance. This keeping people at a distance then leaves us feeling alone, isolated and not good enough.

Hypnosis is an effective treatment for depression where hypnosis is used in conjunction with other modalities of technique to uncover those unconscious beliefs and also the earlier experiences that helped to form those limiting beliefs. Hypnosis gives access to the emotions experienced at the time; and so enables you to untangle yourself emotionally from those past experiences. Hypnosis can also help with depression by using the state of hypnosis to rehearse new strategies. Hypnosis  can be used to build new neural pathways in the brain so that you can overcome depression and get on with the task of living and enjoying your life.

Vancouver Hypnotherapy & Hypnosis, Life Coaching & Counselling Call: (1) 604 202 7938

Your First Hypnosis Session

Hypnotherapy is a talking therapy. It uses words to help the client to change their behaviour. Our first session will start with the taking of a detailed client record to understand the client and their problem. Sessions may vary in length between one hour and 1 1/2 hours. Smoking is normally dealt with in two sessions. Other problems might be dealt with in a single session but more commonly take several, depending on their complexity. However, a  consultant  hypnotist expect to help their clients (assuming that it is a problem which can be helped with hypnosis) in relatively few sessions compared, say, to traditional psychotherapy where it may be usual to have weekly sessions for a long period of time.

A hypnotist will normally expect to see some beneficial change in the client after three sessions.

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER TAKING THE CLIENT RECORD?

If you have not been in hypnosis before, the consultant hypnotist will want to explain hypnosis to you, and answer any questions you may have, to ensure that you are entirely comfortable about the process. Sometimes people who have seen stage hypnosis shows do not realise how pleasurable, in fact how ordinary, a hypnotic trance can be. Everybody is different, but most people feel a pleasant heaviness in their arms and legs; a feeling that while they could move them they would rather not bother. Your eyes will be closed and there may be a similar feeling in the eyelids. You can hear everything that is going on around you and, in particular, the voice of the therapist, but other sounds will start to seem less relevant, your mind may drift a little and you may not be sure whether you have heard everything that has been said. It is your conscious mind that is having this doubt; your unconscious mind will have absorbed it all.

LATER SESSIONS

The consultant hypnotist may well teach you self-hypnosis. This is a simple technique which you can use to relax in your own home. While relaxing you can reinforce the suggestions you have been given, you can review your goals and give yourself more motivation, or you can simply relax (very helpful for insomnia). Your consultant hypnotist may ask you to do certain tasks between sessions, such as keeping an eating diary if you want to reduce weight, or doing something which you previously had a reluctance to do if you have a phobia. In some cases the consultant hypnotist may give you a CD containing the suggestions which you have already been given in trance. The reason for the repetition, whether in self hypnosis, or listening to a CD, is that the subconscious mind is affected by compounding and will give more weight or importance to a suggestion received many times. The advertising industry knows all about this!

WHAT CAN HYPNOTHERAPY HELP YOU WITH?

Because  hypnosis works by offering ideas for change to the subconscious mind it can be helpful with any behavior or disorders caused by, or affected in some way by, the state of the client’s mind. This turns out to be quite a long list of psychosomatic or psychogenic conditions, some of which are listed below. However, if you have some problem which is not specifically listed, and you wonder whether hypnosis can help you you only have to ask, see Contact. Although hypnosis can be a very effective way to help you, the client, you must remember that it should not be thought of as a magic wand! Neither you nor the consultant hypnotist will know everything that is in your subconscious mind; every client is unique and, while the session will be tailored to you as an individual, the consultant hypnotist  is not omnipotent.

CHANGING UNWANTED BEHAVIOR 

Many of us are creatures of habit, and when it is a good habit that can be very helpful by ensuring that we do things which are necessary or beneficial. But when it is a bad habit, or one which we no longer think is good although we may have thought so at one time, then we seem to be a prisoner of our past. Despite all our good intentions to change we find that will power is not enough. Our logical minds know that we should change our behavior but somehow it is just too difficult, and each time we try to change, but fail, this reinforces in us a feeling that we cannot change. Both hypnosis and NLP provide excellent ways of breaking the cycle of failure and so can help you to make the change that you want to make. This is an important point — you must want to make the change — and it is not sufficient for somebody else (e.g. a parent or spouse) to think that you should make the change. If your heart is not in it the change is unlikely to happen. Examples of behavioral change: Smoking cessation Over eating and weight reduction Insomnia Nail-biting Blushing Addictions Alcohol .

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Often if we look at people who are more successful in life we realise that it is not because they are more intelligent, rather it is because they are more confident and better motivated to achieve their objective. In their own mind they have convinced themselves that they can succeed and, as a result, they do succeed. Achieving a more positive attitude of mind is a normal part of any hypnosis session. Of course, the goals that we set ourselves must be reasonable bearing in mind the skills that we have and the effort that we are prepared to put in. Failure to achieve our goals, or a conflict between work pressures, life pressures and the time available, can lead to stress. The more stressed we feel, the worse we perform and a vicious circle develops. Hypnosis, with its emphasis on relaxation, can be a potent force for change when allied with better goal and priority setting, leading to management and reduction of stress. Under the wide heading of personal development we can list:

  • Building self confidence and self-esteem
  • Encouraging relaxation
  • Stress management
  • Emotional difficulties
  • Relationship problems
  • Reduction of anxiety
  • Exam preparation
  • Driving test preparation
  • Assertiveness
  • Life coaching and goal setting
  • Sports or artistic performance enhancement

 

Hypnosis -Depression

Hypnotherapy is one of the most effective treatments for depression . Depression is a condition which can sneak up on you without you realizing it. You may find that you gradually find less and less enjoyment in doing things that you previously enjoyed. Depression is something we unconsciously “do” rather than “have”. As people, we develop many different behavior which are unconsciously driven to protect ourselves from pains and fears. Or we may find certain emotions unbearable.

As we develop as children, we form both conscious and unconscious beliefs about ourselves and different aspects of the world around us. As adults, we tend to play out “scripts” to prove those beliefs we developed in childhood to be correct.
Hypnosis used to help with depression allows us to access those unconscious beliefs and world-views that were formed in our younger years. For example, if we grow up forming the belief “I’m not good enough”, we will feel incapable of handling the ups and downs of general life. Or we may feel as though nothing goes right for us. We may then, at an unconscious level, go about “proving” that we are not good enough to get that better job, or to be in a loving relationship. If we grow up forming the belief that “people will hurt you if you let them get close”, then we will unconsciously protect ourselves from getting hurt by keeping people at a safe distance. This keeping people at a distance then leaves us feeling alone, isolated and not good enough.

Hypnosis is an effective treatment for depression where hypnosis is used in conjunction with other modalities of technique to uncover those unconscious beliefs and also the earlier experiences that helped to form those limiting beliefs. Hypnosis gives access to the emotions experienced at the time; and so enables you to untangle yourself emotionally from those past experiences. Hypnosis can also help with depression by using the state of hypnosis to rehearse new strategies. Hypnosis  can be used to build new neural pathways in the brain so that you can overcome depression and get on with the task of living and enjoying your life.

Vancouver Hypnotherapy & Hypnosis, Life Coaching & Counselling Call: (1) 604 202 7938

After the End of A Relationship

Choose freedom after the breakdown of a relationship

Life is really tough on us sometimes… We choose to be with people that we like and enjoy being with, over time that like perhaps will become love and then you choose to be with that person over a longer duration. Yet what happens when that relationship breaks down? There are many reasons why the break-up has happened and these won’t be discussed here… the fact is that you are now out of the relationship and it feels awful. In fact it is one of the worst feelings that a person can experience. It’s what happens after the break-up that really impacts on us and alters our quality of life.

The above graph shows the various stages of the grief cycle – from shock and denial through to the acceptance and return to meaningful life once again – yet some people seem to get stuck at the stage of being depressed and detached and whilst they seek to find reasons as to what’s happened they are unable to… stuck in their feelings of being overwhelmed and helpless… It is important that you realise that you are not alone, we all go through these challenges and Hypnotherapy can provide relief, release and healing – allowing you to move on. Hypnosis can’t make you forget the relationship or the memories, although this may be what you want – and to be challenging, why would you want to forget? You have had happy times and it’s right to have these happy memories, they define us as people and individuals.

No, it is the response you have to the memories, feelings of content and happiness rather than the gut wrenching feeling of abandonment or jealousy, I am here to help you bring real control and empowerment back, allowing you to feel empowered once again. Indeed, if this is a repeated cycle of behaviour, you may even feel like a failure – this is wrong! Therapy with Hypnosis can quickly bring healing and help you explore what it is you really want and combined with coaching can bring changes to the way that you approach your new future relationships to stop this cycle and patterns of behaviour. It does not matter how old you are, whether you are male or female, in your 20s through to your 50s and 60s, the feelings are the same and you can find effective release from a split in your relationship.

Hypnotherapy can provide a quick, effective, positive result. In most cases you will see change and a difference in one top two sessions and you will get deeper insights into your own beliefs. I will work with you to support you through to normal life, like everyone else. I have helped many people regain confidence, eliminate sadness and the feeling of hopelessness following a relationship slit. Everything you say to me is in complete confidence.

Call me now on 604 202 7938 to free yourself from upset and grief. If you would rather send me an email, please feel free to fill-out my contact form I look forward to hearing from you and helping you.

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Your conscious mind is your objective or thinking mind. It has no memory, and it can only hold one thought at a time. This mind has four essential functions. First, it identifies incoming information. This is information received through any of the the six senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, or feeling. Your conscious mind is continually observing and categorizing what is going on around you. To illustrate, imagine that you are walking along the sidewalk and you decide to cross the street. You step off the curb. At that moment, you hear the roar of an automobile engine. You immediately turn and look in the direction of the moving automobile to identify the sound and where it is coming from. This is the first function. The second function of your conscious mind is comparison. The information about the car that you have seen and heard goes immediately to your subconscious mind. There, it is compared with all of your previously stored information and experiences with moving automobiles. If the car, for example, is a block away, and moving at thirty miles per hour, your subconscious memory bank will tell you that there is no danger and that you can continue walking. If, on the other hand, the car is moving toward you at sixty miles per hour and is only 100 yards away, you will get a “danger” message that will stimulate further action on your part. The third function of your conscious mind is analysis, and analysis always precedes the fourth function, deciding.
Your subconscious is the work desk of your mind. Controlling and directing it is the key to personal change. The Role of the Subconscious: Apart from short term memory, the subconscious also plays an important role in our day to day functioning. It works hard at ensuring you have everything you need for quick recall and access to when you need it. Things like – * Memories – such as what your telephone number is, how to drive a car without having to consciously think about it, what you need to get from the shop on the way home etc. * Current programs you run daily, such as behaviors, habits, mood * Filters (such as beliefs and values) to run information through to test their validity according to your perception of the world * Sensations taken in via your 5 senses and what it means to you If it doesn’t happen to have a filter or reference point in its RAM for some bits of information that come in, then it has a direct line to the storage place of the mind – the unconscious. It will ask the unconscious to pull out the programs that it best associates with the incoming data to help make sense of it all. The subconscious is also constantly at work, staying a lot more aware of your surroundings than you realize. In fact, according to the NLP communication model we are assaulted with over 2 million bits if data every second. If your conscious mind had to deal with all that you would very quickly become overwhelmed and not be able to get anything done. Instead, your subconscious filters out all the unnecessary information and delivers only that which is needed at the time, around 7 chunks of information. It does all this behind the scenes so you can perform your daily work uninhibited. And it does this as logically as it can, based on the programs it has access to in your unconscious.
The unconscious mind is very similar to the subconscious mind in that it also deals with memories. But there is a difference between the two. The unconscious sits a layer deeper in the mind under the subconscious. Although the subconscious and unconscious have direct links to each other and deal with similar things, the unconscious mind is really the cellar, the underground library if you like, of all your memories, habits, and behaviors. It is the storehouse of all your deep seated emotions that have been programmed since birth. Unconscious is the term usually preferred by Psychologists and Psychiatrists to refer to the thoughts we have that are “out of reach” of our consciousness. It shouldn’t be confused with the medical term for unconscious, which basically means knocked out or anesthetized, although both definitions do have similar qualities. In simple terms, the unconscious is the storage place for all our memories that have been repressed or which we don’t wish to recall. A traumatic event in our childhood that has been blocked out is an example, but it doesn’t have to be so serious as this. It could be something very distant like what you had for lunch on your first day of school or what the name was of the childhood friend you played with a couple of times. It’s a memory that we can’t pull out at our choosing. It’s there, but we can’t remember it no matter how hard we try. Certain psychoanalytical methods can bring back these memories (such as hypnosis) or it can be triggered by a particular event (a scent, a familiar place etc). The important point to remember here, is that we cannot, by choice, remember anything in our unconscious without some special event or technique. This is the unconscious.